Hi,
I've registered on the Canadian site, hoping to find someone local. It's hard to be 40 and single, well rooted in acommunity with job and family, when out in the internet dating world. I mean, sure, it's nice to communicate with someone from another country, but when you truly want to find that special person to share your life, or even just to go on dates, travelling for even an hour or 2 seems unrealistic at this point--because I'd expect that guy to also be rooted in his own community, as far as job and home.

What have others found? Are you happy emailing, IM, texting and calling to get to know another, and then drive for a while to meet that "special person"? What about when it has the potential to become more serious? Do you pack in your job/arrange a transfer? Uproot your children/move away from family and friends? All to be with that new love????

As I say, new to internet dating and am wondering if the world is too big for me at the moment?

Well I did. From Northern Ontario to New Brunswick, I lived and loved with the one I met for 5 years. Its hard to find that special one to live with for the rest of your life. That why you see alot of people looking. You have to do what the heart tells you to do in order try and be happy. I split with the one for 5 years because she wasn't what she really said she was, and found her not as active or maybe she wasn't happy?? You move on as I did, found an American here for a couple years. We go to church, walks and travel together and soon she is moving back to the US and we are much in love. Right now she wants to go back alone but wants to fly me down to visit. Maybe in time when we realize we were meant to be....we will be and if not, My heart will break and we move on. The man upstairs will show you the right person, you will feel it in your soul and then you will be happy. For how long is up to the two of you. Good luck everyone!

i find this soo...arrrgghh!..ive been on the internet..as well as locally...i live in the middle of nowhere..well i think i do ive had relationships including two ldr`s..the last one lived 652 iles away in germany we met once...but were due to meet up again...and then she told me she couldnt do the ldr thing...but the thing is..i cant find anyone locally... ..how much is it to ask that there is a bi woman/married lesbian...doesnt smoke...and loves life and is not interested in the just love thing? ...ok ok im not whinging...im just pointing out that i would love to meet someone locallly and yes i do go out....well i guess thats just me waffling for a while...let us know how you all get on....

Thank you both for your reply. I'll just keep on looking.

Well he wrote that over three years ago and come to think of it hasn't been on here for over two so probably won't be that bothered