Hi

Can anyone help --- I like this girl/lady so much we go out do some things together etc etc, I even told her that I like her but shes told me she likes someone else...

Should I just give up on her and move on or should I keep trying in hope...... ????
as she does say she likes spending time with me - any help or advice anyone??

And what do women mean when they say "I like spending time with you" do they mean just as friends or do they mean more than friends can anyone clear that up for me?

Thanks

Sounds like just friends to me and you havent got much hope for any thing more. If you have spent a lot of time with her, and she still says that, then probably less so.

I understand its not easy to have a women as a friend if you want more then she does. But keep her as a friend and try to move on to someone else who wants the same thing as you. Although that probably wont be easy.
But you could lose her as a friend if you dont watch.


But you probably know this.

Might sound a little callous, but it sounds to me like she is holding onto you until something better comes along..

She is probably genuine when she says she likes spending time with you, especially if your doing things that you both have in common..

So time to look elsewhere me thinks..good luck

We've all been there. 'Friends' with someone and you would like more, but they are interested in someone else, maybe everyone else but you We've all heard the 'I like you as a friend but....'

I just think their loss

If she's told you she likes somebody else, I think that really means that you'll never be more than just friends. I do think she's telling the truth about enjoying going out places together with you, but she probably doesn't feel any 'sparks' for your relationship to move on.

Try to make a move towards getting more physical (be subtle). If she doesn't want to know then neither do you; you've just had the f-bomb.

Cut all ties completely. You're just being used as a surrogate boyfriend. Fuck that shit right off. You will be bled dry just so that she doesn't feel like a total social retard.

Any woman that would let you continue to take her out after you've made both of your feelings explicitly clear is bad news. Extremely bad news. You are being used.

Forget about being friends. You don't want that type of person as a friend, and she'll only hamper you while try to find someone who doesn't take the piss.

Be ruthless. These are you feelings we're talking about here.

Just tell her in no uncertain terms to 'fuck off'. Its the very least she deserves for what shes done.

Yeah how dare she just want to be friends, and have the temerity to be up front about it as well, what a total scumbag she is.

Sheesh.

Where does he say he's taking her out? How is he being used?
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Looks like to me she has been nothing but honest with you ........ however if you feel you cant 'just' be friends because of your feelings for her, this is the only reason you should see less of her ........ If everyone was as honest her then we wouldn't have all the prick teasers given us girls a bad name .......

I have as many male friends as i do female ones, it is possible to have friends of the opposite sex and not want to jump into bed with them at any given opportunity.

It sounds to me like the guy has obviously made an effort, and to take the trouble to post asking for advice speaks volumes.

Theres absolutely no reason to remain friends with someone if you want it to go further. In fact the way I see it, if you remain friends with someone you had 'feelings' for (whether thats you wanting to fuck 'em or something more) then its only a hindrance in the long run.

There are a lot of needy people out there who seemingly cannot function unless they have someone to prop them up in one form or another. There are also a lot of people who confuse a friend with a mere aquaintance. Friend is a big word in my book and I'd never attribute it to someone who is a habitual piss-taker.

I can only guess here, but I'd imagine this girl is loving the attention but offers very little in return. I've seen it too many times. They're happy when you're blowing smoke up their arse or helping them through whatever emotional crisis they've found themselves in on any given week, but its all one-way traffic. Whenever that friendship needs reciprocating they're nowhere to be found. Thats not a friend; thats a leech. Remove it. Its better to surround yourself with a handful of genuine friends rather than a whole crowd of mere aquaintances.

Of course, I'm not in full possession of the facts here so I could be completely wrong, and she is in fact a nice enough girl. But the guy is obviously a little smitten, and if she had any self-awareness and respect for the man she'd have told him to keep his distance for a little while rather than go down the 'I like spending time with you' route.

Female friends are great. I've got far more female friends than male. Mainly because I find men to be far more neurotic than women and infinitely more transparent. They're good companions, like a dog, but I'd sooner have female company given the choice. In fact as the years have gone by, unless its a bloke I'm interested in fucking he'd have to be something special to warrant more than just the time of day, but then that'd probably put him on the 'potential' list anyway, c'est la vie!

Fuck it. Enough rambling. The morale of the story - choose friends wisely. If its a man or woman that you're interested in and you're hit with the F-bomb; fuck 'em off. In the long run its better for both parties. Let evolution take care of the needy ones in its own unique and entertaining way.

I think its worth giving time for. Besides feelings can grow and you never know do you??

As you like her so much, maybe just let her go abit, and let her come to you. Don't waste your energy if shes not completely interested there must be something there?

if not, talk to her, she may be into someone else but tell me one person that doesn't fancy the pants off loads of people! I know i do.. maybe the person she likes isn't going to go anywhere..

.. and you know what they say, absense makes the heart grow fonder. She'll know whats shes missing out on x

yes thanks everyone - its just so confusing for me as she says things like that but then either still lets me kiss her or kisses me back if i kiss her.

I don't know maybe I'm kidding myself but then if she didn't like me why would she even bother kissing me / letting me kiss her????

Maybe I'm just being used???? or maybe she has some feelings for me but is not sure - its just so confusing for me.

The reality is she's just not that interested and from your last post she doesn't mind having a bit of fun but isn't interested in anything that serious. That's alright too as long as you just accept it for what it is, don't read too much into it and keep your eye on the rest of the talent out there.