So what do you feel when you're in lust for someone and what do you feel when you fall in love with/for someone.

See... Love and lust can happen only from one side, of course, so I think it's rather weird that we have to say "fall in love WITH someone".

Anyway... Any ideas on the subject are welcome. So are definitions of Lust and Love, although I'm probably gonna get pissed off whilst reading them, as there are as many definitions of love, to say the least, as people in the world...

See I've conducted some studies and, although they may seem cynical and maybe not apply to everyone (although I doubt it), I have reached the conclusion that most of it is chemical, with nuances, if you will.

The pain in quitting smoking, being dumped by the person you love, lacking the person you lust for's touch... They all feel the same.

Of course... We're speaking about forming a habit (aka smoking for a while, dating/whatever someone you really like for a while and such), which turns into an addiction and then when you lose those things, it hurts just the same. Which must mean they hit the same pleasure centers.

Anyhow... The huge difference between losing someone and quitting on nicotine, par example, is that quitting nicotine is like dumping someone you love. As in... You're making the choice, whereas with getting dumped, you cannot control another human being's choices, of course.

And also the EUPHORIA caused by some of the forementioned things seems the same.

Which brings me back to... If you hit the pleasure center real well... The brain really doesn't care how you do it. And if we'd achieve the highest pleasure by eating a bucket of popcorn, the brain really wouldn't care if it's that you do or if it's something else, as long as it hits the right spot.


I'm gonna stop here... But I'll probably continue on this, as I really don't know if I expressed it well and there's sure more to say on the subject.

Thing is... If you're going to respond, perhaps you could start with the first line, because that's the answer I'm looking for now... What do you feel when you realize you're in love and what do you feel when you're lusting?

And please don't give me the: LUST is when you want someone's BODY and that's it... Because it's not true. DAmn... I'm gonna hate starting this. Never mind.

Lust is selfish, Love is selfless.

i have deliberated over this for a full 3 minutes now and have decided that my final answer is...



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I remember once when my daughter had a relatively new boyfriend she said "Oh muva, I don't like this, he's got power over me 'cos I wana do things for him because I'm in love" so, I guess it's the 'selfless' side coming in to play.......
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hmmm...ive thot about this very hard bliss and want you have said kinda makes since to me but i have my own views on lust and love

lust = wanting so much that you can almost feel their body or crave for them like you do with a fag

love = you cant control your feelings for the special some one, when it happens theres no way back from it and that person is all you think about 24/7

but some people do get the two mixed up and say they love some one when its only just lust but some people say they lust after some one but when the really do love them but some times are just to scared to admit it and convince theirselfs its only lust

Lust doesn't last but love does!

love and lust are complementary to each other if they are in perfect tune

Pfffffft

The thing is its going to be hard for you to except other peoples opinions on this because LOVE is different to everyone and like ive said to you already, you cant define LOVE, its not something you can explain with words cos its just the feeling you have for them. Yeh alot of the feelings you feel with LOVE is the same as LUST like, them being the first and last thing on your mind when you go to bed, the flutter you feel when they touch you, the way your heart beats when they kiss you, the way you just want to see them or speak to them every day, the way you smile so much when you see them you feel all those same things with both.

The thing is lust doesnt last long, why cos its based on solely on love and passion which fades after time and if there is no other compatibility then the chances of it turning to love is very slim. Also lust is very much about how YOU feel, you become selfish with it cos you dont care about what the other is feeling, you just care about how you feel and the longing you want for the other person. See i was in lust a little while ago and it was all about what i wanted and i didnt take in to consideration what he wanted and how he was feeling, it was all about how i was feeling.

God this topic is still hurting my head!!!

I've lusted after a lot of women over the years, not sure about love though.

There's probably a fine line between the two though.

Lust is something you need, love is something you want. That, is my simplified answer, to how i feel about it.
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Love is the name people give to extra-strong lust.

Or perhaps love is the name people give to what's left after they stop fancying each other but when their lives are so entangled that they can't easily move on.

Everyone wants to believe in love, but I honestly don't, personally. I think its sole purpose is to give people something to believe in. A bit like god only less inclined to mindless violence.

Maybe I'm just cynical - but it seems to me that in the end, where sexual attraction is involved, it's basically just pheromones.