long distance relationships work only and only if you trust and respect each other...there are several couples on here that have started with l/d relationships and are working as cheeky/kevin...gizz and moldy..and so forth..am I right you all?....and spending time ALOT of time before major decisions are made regarding moving in with each other is a major factor....ok my opinion

Exactly.

I had a long distance thing once, he lived a 6 hr drive away from me and we still managed to see me every w/e or every other w/e...maybe becuase he actually liked me though and wasnt giving me the run around.

I suspect he's married ... Just my opinion[/quote]

Ok well now i feel like im being ganged up on only after making a statement. Whats this world coming to when u cant even make a comment without being called names or people thinking there is a motive behind things without even asking me.

When i said circumstances i meant that in the 13 yrs we were on and off meaning he had found someone on our off time and at one time was with another woman for 3 yrs. Also i dont need to explain the other reasons why we couldnt get together because it is really noone else's business but my own.

Well i suppose this will be the last time i post anything in here on this forum if im going to be attacked for a simple statement that i made. I will go to another site where people are little more friendlier or compassionate in their statements.

Oh ffs, you cant post something like that and expect noone to have a view or opinion, if thats the case then you really need to stay away from discussion boards and go and find a knitting circle or something.

i've been with my girlfriend who lives in london for 6 months now. long distance is new to both of us (we met by accident through a mutual friend) but its working well. we speak on the phone daily, and see each other every 2 or 3 weekends. some people say the hardest thing is spending extended periods of time together at the begining of relationship but we've found it easy. if things are still going well in 6 months or so then i'll probably move down and join her. since we started seeing each other we've both come across people we know that've made it work. her current flatmate is with a girl in japan that he's moving over to be with shortly, and i've a mate here that used to commute long distances at weekends to see a girl thats now his wife.
the general consensus seems to be that it works if you want it to. if you don't want it to work then it'll break down for the same reasons as any other relationship. its lack of compromise that ends things, not distance