Has anyone ever been to one of those lock and key events and if so whats it like? Do people ever go on their own? Not sure if I have the front?

Lol, never heard of a lock and key event though I must admit have been out of the loop for a while(was in a long term relationship).

Do tell.

What are you supposed to do?

Thanks
Jon

I have no idea what they are either..........

Not sure, but I think they give all the girls padlocks and all the boys keys. You have to walk around till you find the matching key or padlock. While you are looking you talk to the other people - a way of breaking the ice thing "Have you got my Padlock", and meeting people

Sounds interesting do they allow skeleton keys into these places ?

yeah its pretty much walking about girls have the key and if your padlock unlocks there is also a prize. I think its like another form of speed dating? So anyone tried speed dating?

Has anyone ever tried DIY dating? ie when they are out and about trying to get dates with women you see on an everyday basis such as at the bus stop, at work, at the launderette, in the library, in the park etc. It take a lot of nerve to strike up a conversation with a complete stranger but once you get used to it it becomes second nature.

never been much good at DIY

well i suppose it takes a certain amount of balls and self confidence to start up a conversation and knowing the right thing to say so to those that can rated and go for it! Its the less confident ones such as myself that finds it hard which is why I suppose I'm here

VoyagerUKmale, I am no different to you, I don't have much confidence either when it comes to talking to strange women. I just decided to make the leap one day and start talking to women because I was fed up with being single. Before that I had only tried to get off with girls I had already met through friends. But none of them were interested in me.

I usually just start a simple conversation about what is relevent to the time and place like idle chat. Usually something simple like the weather will get a woman talking then after a while towards the end of the conversation I ask if I can see her again. After a few times it becomes less frightening and easier. The first few times are the hardest then it is most nerve wracking. But by about the fourth time your confidence builds up.

Hey stone,

appreciate the advice and tip and will see what happens

Incidently in New York in 2001 after 9/11 in the months that followed the number of people having affairs soared, as did the number of marriages which hit a record number that December. It seems that traumatic events break down peoples inhibitions and give them extra courage with the opposite sex.