I am just interested in how many ladies have taken the first step to ask a guy out? or even the first step to message guys on a dating site?

Would you ask a guy out in a real life situation face to face or is that a no no for you?

Do you prefer to be asked/contacted?

I've asked a guy out before. He was a customer, and we'd been blushing at each other for ages, so I asked him out. I later found out my friend had already asked him for his number, telling him I was too shy - No wonder he looked so pleased with himself when I saw him!

I've also messaged a guy first. I put a lot of effort into it, asking him about things he'd mentioned on his profile, and got "Hi sexy!" as a reply. I was a little disappointed.

I did it again last week as well. Sadly he's in the middle of a messy break up, so now would probably not be a good time.

I think if you're interested in someone you should always tell them. If you don't then you have to stand by and watch them fall in love with someone else, and you'll always wonder what could have been.

Isn't that just a cop out though?

one who does the asking

It's a piece of piss being the first one to send a message on a dating site, but I found it does take some balls to actually meet up with someone (without getting shit-faced first!)

In normal situations, it would be nice if the birds did more of the 'asking out'. Even if it is quite scary when they do. If I ever feel the need to ask a girl out, I just try the old trick of psyching myself up with thinking 'what's the worst that can happen?'. The trouble is, I have a vivid imagination and I can think up some pretty bad ways of getting my pride squashed.

I couldnt imagine turning up to meet someone drunk. I need to be in a sober state of mind to meet a date like that. Must be the fight or flight reactions

Am meeting someone thursday night for dinner and then onto a countryside spot for a sunset. Sounds romantic but its just friends really.

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