all guys can be nice and let on that they are decent until they get there wicked way!!

I consider myself to be a nice and decent guy, my problem is i have a disability and at the moment it seems no matter how much a woman gets on with me its a no-go, i dont have a chip on my shoulder, i know some people with disabilities who do but i dont talk to them. Just trying to meet someone who is genuine and will get to know the person, will be glad to explain about my disability.

Ya deres a lot of bastards out dere who pretend to be sumtin dere not. So i c from ur pick dat ur from Offaly, nice part of the country, used to go out wit a girl from round those parts. In fairness to ye Offaly people d majority of ye are sound. Feel free to chat!
Talk soon (hopefully)

You rang?

Sorry, bit cliche i know, but hey, might have made ya giggle.

Anyhow, problem is that people can use many medias to hide behind until you meet them in person. You can only tell so much from the way someone types and posts things, and a lot of the time, the final "image" is so far from the mark that it isn't funny.

It is a shame that you feel like this, but things turn out well eventually. They always seem too. Keep ya chin up.

Can always ask people for msn addresses if you just want to chat and chill, as a pose to actively looking for a bloke/ missus.

lol i think im gonna give up on this place.. everyone ive messged cant even be bothered to reply, lol its like see who can the most ignorant hehe only takes a min to reply .. im honest genuine anda happy fun friendly fella. . kinda wasted waitin for people lol .. surely theres girls out there !

I hear u Cerbster, i havn't been on here for long, and am still finding my feet a lil. I guess until ppl get to know u they'll ignore your posts, mail, and all that stuff, cause these forums/sites can be like lil families in a way.
I read more than i post just to see if the other ppl are the kind i wanna spend time around.

Nice & decent, well in my experience most girls say they want that, but deep down they don't. Gets a lil predictable & boring i've been told. The few times I've been able to just be myself, & the girls were different, they became gf's. Other than that i just play what was percieved or expected, and had some really great times, but nothing memorable emotionally. i know which i prefer now tho. Just be you.
If your a real nice guy, you know, you don't need to advertise it. Once u put it on them, you just KNOW they will love you bad hehehe. But only a Queen get's that kinda treatment from me i'm afraid. A lil hiphop maybe, but "i treat em how they act".

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lol good philosophy steve, i aint stressin bout it .. was only comin here to have a laugh , meet someone for a chat with someone who had same mentality. . im sure theres poor folk whos only friends are online, im glad i got real mates to fall back on lol

as for the hunnies lol well i guess if ya not in the clicky group then ur out on ur ear.. i can be a bad boy or a good boy lol depends on the lass..experience shows me the bad boy seekers love the fast pace but will inevitably get their fingers burnt when u are a bad boy with everyone else lol and they go onto thinkin all men are a***holes lol and will in the end want someone who genuine .. just life man..

ive only been here a few days so i guess i aint in the clicky group lol


peace

oh just thought id add. thats me in right of pic.. an my bro on left.. aint no gay show lol no offense to the gayers like lol

If by nice n decent guy you mean someone with a few manners (though not obsessively) and someone who won't cheat or talk about you or your mates behind your back, then you just gotta look. I'd say I was a honest, polite, decent, and non-one-minded guy. but that's an opinion. everyone is different. and noone should focus for the perfect guy or girl, as you'll never be happy with what u got.

I have given up on trying to find a decent guy. There are none in Nottingham.

I'm sure there must be some in nottingham somewhere

If i was 10 years younger i'd offer to come down and take you out for a drink unfortunately i am a little too old for ya

Thanks...


It's the thought that counts

Hi all,

You cannot seem like a weak nice guy. It's as simple as that. Even in this age of equality between the sexes. A man has to be a man, set up the date and time of the meeting, be confident and reasonably forceful about making decisions etc. He must show respect to the woman, but should not be a pushover or be weak.

To many guys are scared to air their views on things in case they cause offence. Being to PC makes you look weak (Look at politicians;-)

Be a man, and a gentleman, but girls love a bad boy too, so you can afford to be a little cocky as well.

Some of my female friends have terrible boyfriends/partners, but they still stick with them through all the cheating, swearing, drunkeness etc.

I am not implying you should treat a woman badly in the above ways, absolutely not. But men have been 'wimpified' by societys new PC rules.

I've gotten lots of dates by being a cocky bastard. None by being a nice boy. Proof positive!
Feel free to challenge my views anyone.
Look forward to seeing the responses:-) crumbs;-0
Bye bye,
westhighlander

Yeah I agree,

Alot of people nowadays hide away, I've always been myself and been extremely open about everything which has it's plus and minuses. When I'm out it seems to always be a positive as women seem surpised about how open I am, I have had the odd few which might think it's a bid weird. But being open and honest about everything gives me the confidence that I have.

Gav

Ok for a start I am way older than most that have commented. I suspect that the person that said 90 percent are not quiet genuine, is a bit on the high side. However it is a game of averages. Even if two meet and get along, the chemistry may not be there. But the excitement of a first meeting is still there. I suppose if the meeting does not lead to other meetings then the disappointment is there as well.
For me I am hopeful. I find however that experience has made the ladies wary of guys "just looking for one thing"
Such is life but if I am hopeful the younger brigade have a much better chance.
Pat