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Home >> Dating >> is ther any men out there who r not just after a shag
16.05.2008, 14:16 quote
| dragonfly86 wrote: |
| I'm only looking for a relationship! I don't care about sex...
Sex is an added bonus to any relationship. But its not my prime goal in life... Would rather have a fun loving happy relationship over sex!!! |
PMSL
Don’t kid yourself - sex is not an added bonus to a relationship, it is an integral part of any healthy, well-balanced relationship. Whilst a fun, loving, happy relationship is a goal to aim towards, it falls apart at the seams if 2 people are sexually incompatible (esp if one has a high sex drive, and the other doesn’t). As well as finding out whether a potential partner is emotionally and spiritually compatible during the initial dating stage, finding out whether you are sexually compatible is of equal importance. Many so-called new ‘happy relationships’ fall apart after eventually getting to the sex stage, when one finds out that the other person has a completely different sex drive. Personally, I think a mutually agreed timetable for sex (quite early) in a new relationship/dating can save a lot of wasted time on what eventually turns out to be an unsuitable relationship and heartache when they realise it.
16.05.2008, 20:11 quote
Oggioggi - you are speaking for yourself, not everyone dont forget. Yes possibly alot of people agree with you, but you need to realise that some people are going to disagree with you. I realise that you - and a few others on here apparently - cannot get their heads around the idea that someone else has actually thought about this issue and does not agree with you.
17.05.2008, 08:56 quote
| lilacrose wrote: |
| Oggioggi - you are speaking for yourself, not everyone dont forget. Yes possibly alot of people agree with you, but you need to realise that some people are going to disagree with you. I realise that you - and a few others on here apparently - cannot get their heads around the idea that someone else has actually thought about this issue and does not agree with you. |
I’m not really sure why you felt the need to make these comments, they have nothing to do with the topic at all, they are about my post. Indeed, they are indicative of the kind of comment that a moderator would make in a situation where there was a potential spat. Since you aren’t a moderator.......
Like myself, you are entitled to an opinion on any topic on these forums (which you usually do have, whether you know anything about it or not), but in this case you seem to have an opinion on the tone of my post, rather than the content. I’m not 10 years old, I know that I speak for myself, and not for others (I would have thought it pretty obvious) and do not need someone to point out this to me.
Please feel free to respond in your usual style, at great length and citing your numerous friends and acquaintances of every conceivable ethnic, sexual and health background as case examples.
Oh dear, I’ve just done the ‘pot kettle black’ thing, haven’t I?
Incidentally, the first handful of words and the last sentence exepted (which were alight-hearted intro and a personal opinion, respectively), my post was not an 'opinion', it was a fact. Of course, whether or not one agrees with this statement will depend largely on their own school of thought on what makes a successful relationship.
17.05.2008, 09:22 quote
Right my response wont be as deep or intelectually thought out as the 2 posters above me ........... 
In my experience and my opinion sex is a big part of a fun, loving & caring relationship ............. i have been sexual active for 20 years and it was only until very recently that a guy didn't want the sex to be a big part of our relationship, which to be honest i found very strange & frustrating, but at the same time very refreshing.
So in the answer to the question not all guys are after sex, but the majority are........... thank god
Apologies for my flippant attitude but hey, life is too short, live life the way YOU want and not how YOU think other poeple want you to ............ x
17.05.2008, 23:23 quote
Huh?
"Incidentally, the first handful of words and the last sentence exepted (which were alight-hearted intro and a personal opinion, respectively), my post was not an 'opinion', it was a fact. Of course, whether or not one agrees with this statement will depend largely on their own school of thought on what makes a successful relationship"
If that's your personal opinion, how can it be "fact"? You made the first sentence very much a statement of 'fact; not your personal opinion, you even said "Dont kid yourself" which is belittling the other person's viewpoint.
And i beg to differ, if two people are in an intimate relationship and have different sex drives, things dont necessarily need to fall apart if they tackle the issue.
Fact is, it is your opinion that sex is an integral part of a relationship, not a fact. Not everyone agrees with you. Thats why it isnt a fact.
So I am unsure of what point you are making there.
And as to "Please feel free to respond in your usual style, at great length and citing your numerous friends and acquaintances of every conceivable ethnic, sexual and health background as case examples" - I have no idea who you are or what you are on upon there. I wasnt aware i'd ever done that anyway.
14.06.2008, 10:46 quote
I like sex, but I ain't driven by it.I would love to stay up and kiss, cuddle for hours. The act of penetration, I can do or not. Right girls...get looking at me profile! 
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