i think it's ok if a man or a woman plays the field, as long as they are upfront about it, and everyone knows where they stand, not everyone is made for the whole monogamous/exclusive relationship thing. in fact i'll go further than that, i am on here, unashamedly, looking for sex... does that make me so terrible? i am not a sexual predator, just a young {ish} fella who wants to have as much fun as possible why all his plumbing still works. i am upfront about it, i am not averse to a full on relationship, but i won't have one just for the sake of it, i'll wait for someone i really like thankyou. but in the meantime, am i a villian for having a little fun? i don't think so as i have met a few women on here who share my views on having a little no strings fun. i appreciate what i like to do won't be for everyone, but should i feel bad for doing something most of us love to do if we are honest? or is it that the people who run down no strings fun aren't getting as much as they would like? the old adage "the lady doth protest too much" probably applies here.

In my view sex is just part of the whole package - whether it comes much later or it comes straight away.
When I meet a girl i am attracted to, i want to know her, be friends etc but the closer you become, sex kinda comes into it sooner or later.
How can you date someone for months and not even have sex. Girls I know even want it sooner!
If you just want to be friends then state it much earlier in the relationship so the guy (or girl) knows whats up.
evben if a guy initially wants sex, it can lead to a longer term relationship

i was with a guy for six months and last weekend he sent me a txt message to dump me ! and i havent spoken to him since! i just dnt know what to say to him to be honest ohh hi by the way im kathy nice to meet you

We are not all just after sex thats just a stereotypical view. i want to meet a girl for a longterm relationship and for love not love making. id have to get to know someone properly before the sex would begin.

When will good intentions be reconised ,and rewarded, with a proper chat before assumptions are made,dont tar all guys with the same brush ??thanks , and I am free ??? if given a chance!!!

well said billynry