Thats an interesting point Sue about the letting a partner have a life which doesn't always revolve around them...I might have thought, logically, that an older partner would be more mature emotionally, meaning more secure, in order to not have to feel centre of the attention all the time. Perhaps personal experience tells you otherwise?

I did see a few older women in my yoof but never really saw it as something which was long term or serious, I am sure many do though. I did see a documentary about age gap relationships where a woman in her 70s was dating a man in his 30s. It looked odd, but i guess mine and many other peoples perception of it is conditioned against accepting that. But conditioning, if you accept that it is conditioning, can be undone.