I know and all of you know how the book " he isnt just into you" is very black and white.
He doesnt call you - he is not into you. He cant find time: he is not into you.

Basically, i have a guy who is, as he says, superbusy.If i text, he replies. Once in awhile he texts first. But calls very rarely lately, almost never.
And there were few days when he didnt text at all.

But according to the book, guys are never tooo busy for a text or a call. What is ur opinion on that?

Should i just erase his phone number and move on?

Maybe you shouldn't go quite as far as erasing his number but maybe you can suddenly become super busy yourself. See if he finds time to ask you why you have not contacted him. It's not an easy one to answer really and maybe a little test like that will help you find out.

When it comes right down to it, talking is normally the best solution. Have a talk to him about it and ask him if he feels you are bombing him with texts etc too often.

In my job, I can't use my mobile, it would be instant dismissal but I did have a gf a while back who got upset just as you are because I didn't answer her texts. After I sat down and explained it to her, things were fine. The only reason she got upset was because she didn't realise that I'd lose my job if I got caught texting her back. Could that also be the case with him?

If you think there's no reason, like tryst46 outlines, or that he wasn't abroad, etc - send the guy a text: 'Should I find someone who's not so 'superbusy'?' I'd say he wasn't into you and - if you want to find out - you should find out!
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Thanks for your replies.
I have asked him twice whether he is not into me, or if there is another person involved. He says that i am silly to think so and doesnt understand why i think so.And he would alwasy reply my text if i send it first. Plus, he has roaming and even when travels he can text or call.
I havnt texted him yesterday and will try to hold on today.
But my mind and hands are just too jittery to call him and ask all questions. But unfortunately, there is a huge chance that i will hear what i want to hear and not the truth.

I understand your point that one can be sick and tired of constant rings, but wouldnt you want to call ur woman at least once a week to chat? wouldnt a little chat make you feel a bit better. We live in different cities with a slight time difference and the problem is that he never calls me when i am free... which is usually around 10-11pm his time.
But in any case, i tried to call and he said he would call and then he just sent a text saying he is busy with very big project and needs time to fix it, but when i was free and txted that he could call, he even didnt reply.

It's a difficult one this - being ignored or not contacted doesn't always mean they are not into you.

Sometimes it means they are only into you when it's convenient for them. When they feel like having space or are busy, they just ignore you or display limited contact. You become someone they just don't want to deal with at particular times, yet they may be very much into you when convenient for them. Sounds awful doesn't it?

It's more common than you think. Some people just don't see that a relationship means emotionally satisfying your partner by showing her/him you are thinking of them everyday. A relationship is just a part of their life, which is handy to indulge now and again.

The more you chase a person like this, the more likely it is you'll back them into a corner and they'll say something they don't mean just to get you off their backs.

Now I don't know all the circumstances surrounding your relationship, but as mentioned above if someone can't show you some attention once a week, then they have more important things on their mind and are not treating you with the respect a relationship deserves.

It's not selfish of you to want some attention out of a relationship, some emotional feeling of closeness. It sounds like you trying to not be too controlling and clingy and yet you are getting treated to texts.

A serious talk is what's required, because if you are looking to take this relationship to a serious level in the future, you want to be laying some ground rules now about what you expect from it. If not, what's the point if your mind is going into overtime looking for that emotional connection which is only there now and again?

thanks for the replies... and unfortunately, i think this is what is happening. I will try to make him call and have a conversation.. but at the same time i dont want to be clingy since i know how men are all under pressure at work. So, i might just try tomorrow to see whether he will be up to a chat on the phone. I agree with you that a conversation is needed but then i cant be always chasing and pushing for a talk. I will try tomorrow and if not, just let it.. i meant him to go...
Thankfully, i am not ugly yet and can get myself pre-occupied with other dates when i want.. even if it a one date thing

You don't say how old you are? Or how old he is?

To me, if I was constantly texting a guy and he only replied as and when, I would have given up long ago. You can't be the one doing the all chasing. Have you seen the film "He's just not that into you"? It explains it perfectly - if he wants you, he will call you.

For what it's worth, I really wouldn't text him to ask if he is up for a chat. I would just bite the bullet and call him yourself, say you're getting a little fed up of him treating you in such a casual manner and then just ask him if he wants to see you or not. If he gives you a load of excuses and tells you he's too busy, I would be inclined to drop him.

Honestly, how busy are some people not to be able to fit in a quick drink with a girl?!

we both in our early 30s. I totally agree with the you. I not only watched the movie, i read a book looong time ago.
I agree that one cant be THAT busy for a call. We cant meet easily coz we live in different cities and both have busy schedules. And he replies wheneven i text. But i am kinda fed up at the moment, so, am letting it go. If he needs, he will call.
Thanks to all of you for support and your input.

I firmly believe he is not into you. If ever he finds time to call you (only if he still can recall you), ask him how many girls he'd been having fun those days. Let him reply this to himself & move on. Life is too short to be wasting time behind 'superbusy' men.

this is very interesting. Please, note that all the replies from women say ":he isnt into you" while guys are trying to be more reasonable. trying to find a solutions, and to get into the other;s skin.
In any case, here is the update.He asked me to give him some space and time to resolve a complicate work problem. But the Question remains the same.. how much time does it take to text or call to say" hey how are you, i am great.. or can a guy be that much fed up with work and not in a mood for a chat with a woman he loves? we shall see