That i will agree with x And it makes such a change for me not to loose the plot!

I think confidence has a big part in it i have trouble with confidence and approaching ladies and don't think you see the real person meeting em in a pub/club thats why online dating can be a way of starting a friendship before a meeting giving people a chance to get a feel for that person (although some people do play games sadly) making it harder for genuine people to find what they looking for anyone else agree??

And ladies and gents i can see this thread approaching the same as some of the otherS if internet dating is g8 (i agree) what would be the most ideal way to gather an insight into a persons real self! We seem to be doing pretty well here at the moment! So we all make an effort when we go out for a night? why should a mini skirt send out the wrong signals? Should a real gent approuch a girl direct for sex? It takes two to tango? getting personal gremlins off ones chest! not an ideal way to break the ice! Flirting in a nice way is cool if its reciprocated! good old double entendres are brill (carry on movies!) so perhaps the internet dating sites need a revamp away from simplistic profiles! but who wants to fill in pages of info? so how about several simple questions a wee bit about yourself and chat to people this way? you gain a real insite into the person or people online and there seems to be very little rudeness here! We have all sent off messages and never got a reply!!!!!! so join the the forums for a dating site based on this format but with a few new ideas for private messaging???????

sandman247 i think most guys do have a "problem" with approaching ladies...

the problem in my opinion is that many women are also not very confident and often lash out when approached by men...

its a vicous cycle....

for me a way to reduce the blows, is to make eye contact first and see if there is some interest.... Its not foolproof but hey nothing in life is.....

also just be happy dont worry if somone does get funny, then really its their problem, and they are really someone you didnt want to get to know qnyway in my opinion....

I think you've got to admit that in this day and age the dating game is just about havin your confidence sapped and emasculated to the point where we give up!

Sorry eccles.... fortunately I don't go along with that, I am definitely improving with age!... thank the lord!!!

by the time i am 100, I may get a gilrfriend...... lol...

I think its important to be able to recognise the type of person that is going to be good to talk to.... and the ones that are going to be agressive...

try giving somone a little wave or smile, and if they can't handle it.... steer well clear....

*me waves n smiles for everyone*

Believe me i do! i steer well clear of the bunny boilers! I'm almost half way to a 100! so do u think ive got a chance?

Sorry, I cant boil bunnies, Id cry, Im too soft!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Good but theres plenty out there who do!!!!!!!!

*me rounds up all bunnies and puts them in my garden for safety*

I boiled up a couple of crabs and ate them the last week...

is that better or worse than being a bunny boiler???

Waves and smiles back ExmouthLady!!!!!!

Crabs ok! bunnies and cute creatures are a no no!!!