whats it worth to get rid of the bug ladies?

And back on topic...

A pic is good, if anything to stop my mind running away with itself...which as many on here will testify, needs no encouragement
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I can't help it!

It has been said to me that some women don't want to converse with me even on forums, because of my pictures. That has been said to me on a few forums.

I noticed it did affect my experience on these discussion boards, after I put my pictures up.

Okay, believing you can assume whether or not you are going to be attracted to someone by one or two photos, is one thing. But letting a photo affect the way you chat to people [men] on forums/message boards is the depths of shallowness, in my opinion.

But in my experience and as I've said, photos have probably no bearing on whether or not there will be any attraction to someone when you meet.

Think your presuming if the said person didn't turn out to be a George Clooney lookalike he would be suddenly wiped from my MSN list ............. thats far from the truth, just like to know who i am talking that;'s all .............. [/quote]


High Five Anne-marie... What i've said all along about having a pic

I wasnt presuming anything of the sort, and cant see what i said would give any one that idea. I was simply agreeing with jeggae (who i have discussed this issue with in private previously) that it is a bit 'shallow' to snub someone on the forums just because you either dont have a photo up, or that person doesnt like the look of you in the photo that you do have on the forum.
As far as being interested in a person and wanting to get to know them better (from a flirting/dating/whatever side of things), then yes of course a photo is rather important.

Quote: "Think your presuming if........"

That kind of says loud and clear to me that you are responding to what you think I have said.

"Alice why do you presume i am having a go all the time" - AM, I am not aware that I have ever 'presumed' you are having a go 'all the time'.

Obviously, we have misread one another's intentions.

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lilacrose wrote:

jeggae wrote: It has been said to me that some women don't want to converse with me even on forums, because of my pictures. That has been said to me on a few forums. I noticed it did affect my experience on these discussion boards, after I put my pictures up. Okay, believing you can assume whether or not you are going to be funkychick1 wrote: attracted to someone by one or two photos, is one thing. But letting a photo affect the way you chat to people [men] on forums/message boards is the depths of shallowness, in my opinion. But in my experience and as I've said, photos have probably no bearing on whether or not there will be any attraction to someone when you meet. I have to be honest, and totally agree there, but each to their own, eh? And for the record, Jegs, I think in your current photo you look lovely and well-worth chatting with! Like i said on my post for 'dating purposes' i would prefer to see a photo ......... dont think its shallow to want a physical attraction to someone you were interested romantically do you ???

funkychick1 wrote:

........... but then i don't see the forums as the dating side of the sight

A pic is nice to see, but the most important thing for me, is the way the other person actually comes across in their message. If someone is too forward and stuff, saying they would like to get to know me better on first message and can I have your msn it puts me off. But...if someone is just being friendly and you can tell in their choice of words that they are not a flying monkey then it doesn't really matter if there is a pic or not.