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13.10.2007, 13:33 quote

Anonymous

When you say 'interracial' does it count if you get uncontrolable urges towards farm-yard animals?
Not that I am in that catagory, just a question, I know that it is a really BAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAD thing to do..........


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13.10.2007, 14:06 quote

CostaCork
Joined: 06 May 2007 Posts: 367 Location: Ireland, Cork, Cork
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Brownie83 wrote:
I would like to know, what are your views about interracial dating?
I (dutch, black girl) have always been attracted to guys outside of my race. Where I live, dating outside your own race is not much of a "problem".
Love is colorblind Cool

I'd really like to hear about your views and experiences with interracial dating....



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If it was dating you then no, i definitely wouldn't have a problem with it Smile

Back to the topic, i dunno, i have been in mixed race relationships before and its not been an issue for my family / friends, cant see it ever being a problem to be honest. My brother is married to someone of a different race and there are problems on her side of the family so i can see that side of things as well. They are a cool couple too, so an issue is overcome because they get on so well.

I cant help but think though, if you dont date people from other creeds and colours then you are missing out. Creed and colour shouldn't come into it to be honest.

 

20.10.2007, 21:30 quote

manfrommayo

samatron wrote:
It's a personal thing, no right or wrong.
Everyone likes what they like.
I have a good mate who's Chinese.
He says he could only get serious with another Chinese girl.
Guess it's a family thing for him.
I don't have the option to maintain my racial purity as I'm a mongrel!


It's interesting how white normally pair up with white, and black pair up with black, I guess the motive isn't racism, but rather people generally gravitate towards people or things that seem familiar to them.

In any case, race should never be a consideration, I myself had a Transatlantic romance with a Navajo Indian... no, the real consideration is one of culture - can you date someone if their culture is incompatible with yours? I guess the answer there is; if both people have 'watered down' their cultural beliefs, then yes, I guess. Otherwise, it's a recipe for disaster.

 

20.10.2007, 21:37 quote

manfrommayo

Brownie83 wrote:
god wrote:
Why do you ask after all? Do you have lots of "racist" friends that don't like that you date people with another skin colour ?


No, I don't have racist friends. But I have a friend who thinks that everyone should be proud of their heritage and therefor date within their own race.
I think he should open his eyes and look around him.
It seems that interracial dating is becoming more and more common all of a sudden. Everytime I go out in public, I see more and more interracial couples. And I think that's great
Smile


Well, heritage is a question of culture, not race, cultural considerations are valid, racial ones are not.

Saying that, of course, there is also the question of 'what you're into' - some men like big women, some like skinny women, and some like white women and some like black, Oriental, etc. But, appearences should really only be secondary consideration to personality! Smile

 

05.11.2007, 01:16 quote

Anonymous

I am 'white' and was born and brought up in Africa, sent to an international school in the uk when I was 9yrs old where 75% of the girls were 'not English'.
To this day one particular incident haunts me.
I was about 12 yrs old and a nigerian girl said to me "You can't join our gang - you're not black".
I didn't half cry and it was such a shock to me, I went and stood in front of a mirror totally baffled because it never occured to me before that anyone actually *had* a skin color!
Personally I've never dated a non-whiite guy for the simple reason that I've never been in the right place at the right time to meet one whom I liked and he liked me.
(And I still struggle to understand why anyone 'sees' skin color).

 

14.11.2007, 01:54 quote

brainstew
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I was surprised how much of a reaction it got when I told my friends I (a white guy) had been seeing a black girl. Not a lot of it was negaive persay, but it seemed to shock/intrigue a lot more people than I thought. I honestly thought in our society it was a normal/everyday/accepted thing but it seems we're quite a bit away from that.

 

02.12.2007, 17:18 quote

stevie_velvet
Joined: 13 Dec 2003 Posts: 96 Location: United Kingdom, England, London
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-brainy83- Good for you !!
As a person weho shares you colour skin I don't feel offended at all
In the US they have Lovings Day, about Mr & Mrs Lovings (there real name!...he's white)
, a couple in the 60s whose marriage was annuled beacsue they moved stat, then spent about 25 years going through stat-eto-state to make interracial marriage legal in the US

-brainstew-
it isn't common, your scenraio & hence it's a taboo, because people hav't thought about it, it has quite passed their mind




I posted earlier a true story a intterracial couple

He wasn't caucasian, she was,
He was 23, she was 43
He went to the local comprehensive though not to University, she gained a 1st masters in French Literature,
He was brought up in London suburb, she came from a 'posh'upgringing in Torquay in it's heydey,
He was 6ft foot, she was barely more than 5,
She was thin & called him Buddha,
They spent over 4 years together.

 
 
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