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05.10.2007, 13:09 quote

Anonymous

I would like to know, what are your views about interracial dating?
I (dutch, black girl) have always been attracted to guys outside of my race. Where I live, dating outside your own race is not much of a "problem".
Love is colorblind Cool

I'd really like to hear about your views and experiences with interracial dating....



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05.10.2007, 13:52 quote

Aradon
Aradon Joined: 10 Aug 2006 Posts: 3090 Location: United Kingdom, England, Greater Manchester
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im with you, but i'll elaborate on your statement.

Love has no boundaries Smile
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05.10.2007, 22:53 quote

Anonymous

I see no problem in interracial dating ... so good luck brownie83. there are some nice guys on here

 

06.10.2007, 00:22 quote

samatron
samatron Joined: 24 May 2007 Posts: 218 Location: United Kingdom, England, Greater Manchester
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It's a personal thing, no right or wrong.
Everyone likes what they like.
I have a good mate who's Chinese.
He says he could only get serious with another Chinese girl.
Guess it's a family thing for him.
I don't have the option to maintain my racial purity as I'm a mongrel!

 

06.10.2007, 07:17 quote

Anonymous

Why do you ask after all? Do you have lots of "racist" friends that don't like that you date people with another skin colour ?

 

06.10.2007, 08:39 quote

Anonymous

samatron wrote:

Guess it's a family thing for him.


I am not having a dig at you when i say this Samtron, as your posts always make a lot of sense to me. When i read that i did wonder... if he was from a family of racist BNP supporters, would be so quick to brush it off as a 'family thing' then if they only dated racists? or would we be disgusted at such 'personal choice'? I understand the concept of choice and personal taste, its just alot of older people still have racism in their moral constitution as they were 'from that era when that was normal' and they seem to think that they shouldn't or couldn't change that purely because they were 'bought up' around racism and feel it is acceptable. I feel that people can change their attitudes, its a matter of whether they want to or have had experiences that have made them want to.

Incidently, i am now dating a mixed race woman, getting back to the original post, and i am very happy with her and our relationship, i dont view it as any different to relationships i had with people of my own race. My family are fine about it, my sister dated a black guy for 13 years so its not something new in our family to date outside of our race. I don't think interracial dating is a stigma like it used to be, maybe it is with people who are alot older? In my eyes, people are just people, no matter what their colour of skin or ability they are the same as me. One of the philosophies i TRY to live by is that i try to accept people for who they are, because i expect people to accept me for who i am. If i cannot offer that acceptance to other people then i have no right to expect it back from them too.

 

06.10.2007, 11:45 quote

Anonymous

Everybody knows what I'm going to say...

Race/Skin Colour/ religion etc. is not a big factor, to me anyway. I would date any woman if I was attracted to them.

 

06.10.2007, 13:23 quote

annmarie5988

Personally i have never had an 'interracial relationship', not because i am racist, because i am definately not, its just a matter of personal choice. But i can relate Samatron on the 'family thing' though. I come from an Irish Catholic family, dont get me wrong if i fancied a mixed race person it would not have stopped me persueing it, but i am sure i would have got a few comments from the older generations in my family. At the end of the day its all about personal choice, but just because you dont date coloured people, does not mean you are racist, the same as when coloured people dont date white people !!!!!!!!!!! .................. x

 

07.10.2007, 08:32 quote

Anonymous

god wrote:
Why do you ask after all? Do you have lots of "racist" friends that don't like that you date people with another skin colour ?


No, I don't have racist friends. But I have a friend who thinks that everyone should be proud of their heritage and therefor date within their own race.
I think he should open his eyes and look around him.
It seems that interracial dating is becoming more and more common all of a sudden. Everytime I go out in public, I see more and more interracial couples. And I think that's great
Smile

 

08.10.2007, 22:55 quote

samatron
samatron Joined: 24 May 2007 Posts: 218 Location: United Kingdom, England, Greater Manchester
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Most people who live in the West Indies (if not all!) are the result of inter-racial dating, so it is fairly popular!

Scottie: interesting stuff! I wouldn't say that my mate's family are racists. Why would they live in England if they hated white people? But it is common for ethnic families to like to continue their ethnic line. That would make his parents happy, so that is what he would do.
I have another mate from a Pakistani family. They don't have the same expectations. I think his parents would like him to meet a Pakistani girl, but they would be happy with anyone who made him happy!
I'm with you in that I can't really relate to it. Being part of an ethnic minority would help to understand the mindset. I don't think it's to do with racism!

 

08.10.2007, 23:55 quote

pasleptsiekare

Interracial dating?

If you're attracted to somebody, like them..even love them..then it doesn't matter what race they are Aterall, we are all human. All have the same emotions etc

Unfortunely there are some biggoted(sp?) people out there that believe it's wrong to date outside of your race.

Either way.

I'm all for it.

 

12.10.2007, 15:41 quote

hectorlupino
hectorlupino Joined: 03 Aug 2007 Posts: 51 Location: United Kingdom, Wales, Clwyd
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The date should not be the looked upon by the person's colour of there skin as the old saying goes "Never judge the book by the colour"

By the way Brownie83, like you avatar, you look really great!

 

12.10.2007, 15:47 quote

Anonymous

hectorlupino wrote:
The date should not be the looked upon by the person's colour of there skin as the old saying goes "Never judge the book by the colour"

By the way Brownie83, like you avatar, you look really great!


i think you mean never judge a book by its cover perhaps?

 

12.10.2007, 16:02 quote

stevie_velvet
stevie_velvet Joined: 13 Dec 2003 Posts: 75 Location: United Kingdom, England, London
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I hav't read the rpelies to theis for forgive me

I heard that a few weeks ago a Richard Loving passed away. He was married to Mildred Jeeter (Black), in 1958 in DoC, US. when they returned to Viginia, were interracial marriage was illegal they were sentenced to 1 year-suspended sentance

The couple retruned to DoC & beginne a series of lawsuits to the supreme court to get it over turned, I took between 3-10 years of legal battles.

Their story was made into a film in 1994 ('Mr & Mrs Loving'). The last State in the US to allow interracial marriagies was Alabama......In The Year 2000

Loving Day is held on June 12 & Mixed-Race Day, in Brasil on June 27

 

12.10.2007, 21:15 quote

Anonymous

hectorlupino wrote:

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By the way Brownie83, like you avatar, you look really great!



Thank very much hectorlupino Smile

 
 
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