is it all a waste of time? i think so!

It depends on who you meet really.

We're all still here tho!

sorry if i affend you but if you think its a waste of time why are you here?

im still hopeful, thats y im still here

so then you cant reli see it as a waste of time otherwise you would go do summat else!

lol okay - i stand corrected

i don't think it's a waste of time, just that you have to sift through a lot of things that people say abou themselves. people in general are not the most honest in their descriptions over a computer screen i've found.

but then there's plenty of time to find the right one, just a case of talking to the people beforehand and making your own mind up.

I dont think it is a waste of time at all. in fact it is a life line for someone in my position. I am a single mum so needless to say i am home most nights with my little boy. yeah i could always get my mum to abysit and get out and meet people. but i find it horrible trying to get to know someone in a nosey pub where you have no chance of hearing what they have to say. At least with the online thing, you get a chance to chat and find out more before meeting up in person.
Yes admitedly i have had a couple of bad dates where one i nearly fell asleep whilst he described arranging his books and dvds in alphabetical order and another stalked me for months. But on the plus side i have had some great experiances i have made a friend thorugh another site who will be a friend for years to come. so hell i think it is a great idea.

Danni82, i totally agree with the lifeline thing. I'm disabled so i too am indoors most of the time. I cant go out by myself to meet new ppl so consequently i hav hardly any friends. I liv alone so basically use the internet for fun and to talk to ppl. I will admit when i stated using the internet I was in it to find love, not that much anymore tho.

I find this comes up alot in the forums that i worked in. to be honest when someone goes online with the sole perpous of finding love, that is when thisngs can get tricky.
Believe it or not but studies have shown that internett chat sites and match making sites are as addictive as smoking or drinking.
Aloot of people do try and jump straight in and look directly for one particular thing and then get down harted and depressed when things dont go as they hoped. take my mum for example she is 46 and regualy talks to people online. originally she would start by talking to one person at a time, then meet them however she was getting more and nore depressed with it. so now she talks to a lot of different people and looks with the intention of making friends now rather than love. shes alot happier and infact she has found someone at long last.

So in my opinion it is best to meet and chat with people in the hope of making friends, rather than finding love. because if you go into a date with no expectations of what may be you are more lik;ey to act like you would everyday. therefore people get to see the real you and that is far better than jumping in feet first. then if love happens it will be extra special

omg typos lol. sorry about that dang i hate this laptop key pad

I'd say I have an Internet addiction, I'd also say I'm addicted to Flirtbox. And I'm constantly looking for love, and I constantly get let down because I come over as this "weirdo"