Hi everyone,
am new here, and i found this site by chance only because i was so desperate to talk to somebody.
I liked it how everyone here sounds kind, and helping each others, thats y am typin this as the first and last hope..

the things is....i suck with girls....i can attract them at the begining then .....thats it...i never knew the next step, although I've read alot of books and had alot of exp. but still ... even if we started i struglle with this...( u r ma best frind, u r like a brother to me, i like spending time with u )
i know that am confident, good looking certainly not ugly with a middle-eastern look, but when i like someone ....i screw it and i dont know y..

being in a relation is a big thing to me, and since i moved to Liverpool, i spoke with only one girl and she rejected me politely...and screwe with so many others even in night clubs...!!!

y??!!!
whats wrong??!!!
what am i spose to do ?
i wana kill ma self...

pls help me

Sorry, I've been trying to send you a private message on here but it won't send off so I've had to alter the things I would have liked to say to you.

Firstly, I don't know that you're doing anything wrong but the more anxious you become the less likely you're going to attract someone, and if you're feeling 'needy' sometimes girls can sense this, and it pushes them further away. The way you act may come across as a possessiveness that can be experienced as a threat to a girls freedom or even too cautious in your approach.

You're only young, and you would do better to try to get onto a more optimistic way of thinking. Instead of seeing yourself as unsuccessful, be pleased that you can ATTRACT the girls, also you are VALUED A LOT if you have girls saying that they see you as a BEST FRIEND, like a BROTHER and ENJOYING SPENDING TIME WITH YOU...it may not be what you are wanting, but hey, that must tell you something of your worth? So, they're just not the girls for you.

If you are feeling suicidal about this, you ought to talk to the Samaritans or seek counselling as it's likely that there are some underlying issues adding to your situation that need exploring, as maybe they aren't obvious to you or else you have additional stresses that are contributing to how you're feeling.

It could be that fears of being rejected prevent you from showing your interest in a girl until she has already become used to you as a friend, rather than a potential lover. But in any case, it's these type of issues that you might need some help to think about.

I do know that many young men feel exactly the same as you, and so just try to feel more relaxed about there being the POTENTIAL FOR SOMEONE NEW and exciting to come into your life, you've got a whole new city in sight.

Chill out man desperate is not sexy! Girls screw around man, ..that’s why GUM clinics are so popular these days.


…have you thought of going to ibitha?

thanx guys for all what u have said, its enough that u have answered me back, am happy for that,

what u have said mirror is soo true, for a moment i thought am talking to a psychatrist... u r ood in analyising.

i do really like it when girls say that they like me like a brother or am da best friend ..i know that am so good with them, the problem is when i wana approach a new girl or make a gf, even ma x-gf used to tell me ur like a bro. !!!!
what ??!! shoule i be more sexual about it? i've even tried that, girls run away from me even further and faster,
i hate it when girls look at me in a teasy way with a smile, and when i start doing somethig toward them ...SO GENTLY... they turn around!!!

as i said, i tired to be gentle( and i think this is ma main problem coz this is really me, i do respect women) i tried to act sexy, i tried to act like a bad boy, or fuuny, or what ever...but nothing has worked...and now its more in ma subconscious that its not gona work every time look to a girl.

and no mate i didnt try GUM whats about it?

thanx all....

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*Edited by LV*

If you try acting as something different than your true self, it will create new problems,like a 'false self to live up to'just try to be comfortable in your own skin and believe in your self as being someone really worth knowing. Then you're more likely to feel the confidence of being who you are and people will treat you differently.

…have you thought of going to ibitha?[/quote]

Whats that??!!

I'm not saying this to be mean or anything, I really mean for it to be helpful.

After reading several of your posts, including the one that started this topic, I've noticed you use a very, um, "informal" writing style that includes abbreviated spelling and language like you would use in a quick text message to a friend. From other posts I've read, I think women tend to be put off by this style of writing, and prefer to have something that is carefully worded.

While I'm no writing expert, my suggestion is that when writing to people you don't know, especially for the first time, you take the time to spell out your words and phrase your sentences more carefully. Once you're sending her 10 texts back and forth each day, then feel free to abbreviate

Good luck!

Just an observation, but it also looks like your looking for instant results... Your offering too much to quickly, that your ready to throw your heart to them at a moments notice.

Slow down, relax, and stop making it a priority or a necessity. Cursing the bus and willing it to go faster isn't going to make it arrive any quicker than chilling out and waiting for it.

Along with the psychologist (which is solid advice) try and meet women in places other than just night club meat markets or the pub. Take up something like theatre, or enroll in a night course, or try a new sport with a club or anything. Basically this will put you into a different context than the nightclub/pub *you've got 2 seconds to impress me Mr. Phelps* scenario.

loooolz...doctor, thanx for ur advice, it wasnt insulting at all...i didnt know that about the typing...oops am using the appreviations again!!

No seriously I did not know that, I thought I have to use the formal way only in hospital...
You see this is the kind of advice that I need, the little tiny things that I dont see..

Yours,
Mazen

Slow down, relax, and stop making it a priority or a necessity. Cursing the bus and willing it to go faster isn't going to make it arrive any quicker than chilling out and waiting for it.

I agree with u mate, but have u been single for 8 years with only ond relation that lasted for few months only during all this period??!!

Thats what hurt...

anyway, I've been doing what u have said lately, gym, clubs, sports, u know trying to meet girls in different sites other than pubs and night clubs...
hope i will get ma currage back

wish me luck

nice one

May I just say that if you approach women while dressed like in that photo, they probably think you're going to mug them.

You've changed it... good move!

i swear i didnt change ma picture it did by itself..lol