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Home >> Dating >> How long until you arrange to meet someone ?
23.06.2007, 23:35 quote
How do you decide when it is a good time to suggest meeting someone you've been talking to via some online method ? Do you just do it and see what happens, or is there some sort of stage you should reach or amount of time that should pass before it is OK to mention it ?
24.06.2007, 00:00 quote
I personally think its an individual choice..no rules as such..from a personal experience, one guy I met after chatting for at least 6 months, another I met after just a few weeks, just because that seemed to be the right choice..
If a meeting is on the cards then just go with the flow, it will be apparent from chatting that its going to happen..
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24.06.2007, 01:11 quote
The sooner the better. Less time wasted.
If they don't want to meet up after getting to know you a little, ask yourself why?
I'm all for people playing it safe, but there comes a time (and this should be relatively early on as far as I'm concerned) where you get to meet in the flesh, lest it turn into some Walter Mitty MSN relationship. The first sign of that and you need to get the fuck out of Dodge.
It's not rushing things. It's not a prelude to anything. You're just meeting them. The same as you would if you met them first in real life and had nothing to do with the internet altogether. Anyone who puts obstacles in the way of meeting up should set alarm bells ringing.
If I had to put a figure on it I'd say within the month of first making contact. You can glean more than enough information within that period to decide whether you want to meet someone or not, and if you don't you should at least have the common decency to let them know and not string them along.
24.06.2007, 07:26 quote
I had a relationship for 4 years with someone I'd been talking over the internet to for 4 months never having seen his pic before hand, and my current boyfriend was after just 1 hour of chatting!
It's all down to what you want to do and feel comfortable with. But it would seem to me that if you're asking here, then you're ready to meet her 
Good luck Dave 
24.06.2007, 07:52 quote
| redoctober wrote: |
| I had a relationship for 4 years with someone I'd been talking over the internet to for 4 months never having seen his pic before hand, and my current boyfriend was after just 1 hour of chatting!
It's all down to what you want to do and feel comfortable with. But it would seem to me that if you're asking here, then you're ready to meet her
Good luck Dave |
I've only been talking to her for a couple of days, but what's got me is that as she's so local I'm wondering what the point of chatting online is when we could meet properly and see how we get on. I'm probably going to see how it goes over the course of this week and decide from there.
I'm a little out of practice at this lark, which is why I figured I'd see what other people thought. Dunno what I expected from posting, just thought I'd see what people said.
24.06.2007, 07:56 quote
| CharmingDave wrote: |
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I've only been talking to her for a couple of days, but what's got me is that as she's so local I'm wondering what the point of chatting online is when we could meet properly and see how we get on. . |
That's why I met my boyfriend after an hour of chatting. He's not too far away and chatting over a drink in a cosy pub was much more appealing than hunched over a pc! Give it a whirl Dave, you won't know if you don't try
24.06.2007, 08:18 quote
| CharmingDave wrote: |
| How do you decide when it is a good time to suggest meeting someone you've been talking to via some online method ? Do you just do it and see what happens, or is there some sort of stage you should reach or amount of time that should pass before it is OK to mention it ? |
I've never met anyone off the net for romance reasons, and doubt I will. There was only one person I wanted to meet, but she lived abroad. So maybe I'm not a good one to say. But I should imagine it depends on if you have a mutual interest or how well you get on. If there was someone I liked enough and I really wanted to meet her, I'd tell her as soon as I felt the urge, and would try and arrange it. If she likes you in any kind of way I cant see why there'd be a problem.
If you both had an hobby or interest you then it would probably be easier, but you haven’t got a lot to lose. If there is someone good luck and tell her
24.06.2007, 08:39 quote
| redoctober wrote: | ||
That's why I met my boyfriend after an hour of chatting. He's not too far away and chatting over a drink in a cosy pub was much more appealing than hunched over a pc! Give it a whirl Dave, you won't know if you don't try |
I asked her for a picture of her yesterday, as a cautious first step towards meeting, but she's got back to me today saying she's not got one, but did I want to meet tonight.
OMG OMG ... How scary but exciting
I might need to get some sleep, as I've messed up my sleeping patterns. Today is a nice day
however it turns out.
24.06.2007, 09:01 quote
| CharmingDave wrote: |
| I asked her for a picture of her yesterday, as a cautious first step towards meeting, but she's got back to me today saying she's not got one, but did I want to meet tonight.
I might need to get some sleep, as I've messed up my sleeping patterns. Today is a nice day however it turns out. |
Excellent, saves you the worry of trying to find the right time to ask her. Mind you I do find it a bit odd these days when someone doesn't have a photo at all. But good luck and have a great time.
Yeah, falling asleep when you meet her would probably go down badly.
24.06.2007, 09:03 quote
| twistedvoilet wrote: |
| nice one dave, good luck |
Thanks. I am genuinely quite scared about this. I can easily be brave for anything *but* all this girl boy stuff. My only comfort is that she knows what I look like already and that this is her idea. I'll manage, though
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| CMISO wrote: |
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Excellent, saves you the worry of trying to find the right time to ask her. Mind you I do find it a bit odd these days when someone doesn't have a photo at all. |
She says she's bad with technology and doesn't know how to do it, which is fairly believable. I know a few people like that. Anyway, she seems intelligent, and I like how she talks. That is a good start.
24.06.2007, 10:32 quote
Be brave Dave and remember you are a great catch Good luck... not that I think you need it xxx
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24.06.2007, 10:40 quote
| CharmingDave wrote: | ||||
I asked her for a picture of her yesterday, as a cautious first step towards meeting, but she's got back to me today saying she's not got one, but did I want to meet tonight. OMG OMG ... How scary but exciting
I might need to get some sleep, as I've messed up my sleeping patterns. Today is a nice day however it turns out. |
Good luck mate, hope it goes well. Don't worry about her not having a photo up, doesnt mean they always have something to hide. She sounds confident that you wont be disappointed
24.06.2007, 13:12 quote
| kizz wrote: |
| Be brave Dave and remember you are a great catch Good luck... not that I think you need it xxx |
Thanks. I dunno about not needing luck, though. I know I've let at least one good lady go by because I never twigged that she fancied the pants off me. So, take it along with everyone else's best wishes
I'm still waiting on another message to finalise the details, though, and getting nervous that it's not going to happen. I've not done some things I'd planned because of getting some sleep I needed, so's to be able to make it.
If it's any odds, she did say before leaving that she'd like to meet again, without me prompting her or saying anything. She might just have been being "nice" but who knows ... women are strange creatures.
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