Time heals ..memories fade...Learn from the past to be aware of certain things that you may have experienced before. I dont trust anyone anymore..sadly..i try and i still am positive to a certain degree, but.. I guess it will take the right person to heal the wound..
and that person is yourself.. build self esteem, confidence if you feel you have lost it... you must protect yourself and until some-one builds that trust with you again never let your guard down until it happens and then not totally ..everthing takes time.. pain in the a*** i know.... and to be honest i dont know if any one else feels the same but the harder you look the less you find. Good luck. xx

Cheers for everyones advice.

I felt like there was no reason to me and my ex falling out, but early this week my ex best friend filled me in on the details. Turned out she was 'seeing him' whilst i was away working during the week. one good thing came out of the conversation, i finally feel I can move on! Bad thing is I am not sure I can trust any of my friends anymore as they all kept it from me for 9 months. How are you supposed to trust people who lie straight to your face with an excuse of we didn't want to hurt you??

Just wondering though, the more you get hurt the harder your heart becomes - as a defence - and its trickier then to open your heart to someone new, or is that just me?

I also find it really hard to open up and trust people now. I am finding myself to be having doubts about all my friends. It's a horrible feeling as I don't feel like I can trust anyone

If it hurts then it must have meant something to you, which is good. Unless you're one of the lucky people in life (ie. lottery winners, ambidextrous people, those people who can eat their own weight in cake yet seemingly never have an ounce of fat on them, natural blondes etc.) who meet their true love as a teen and then stay with them for the rest of their life then you can expect to get hurt a few times. You just have to draw the positives from the experience and try and move on.

If you let it prevent you from getting close to anyone else then you'll just get bitter, withdrawn, and the longer you leave it the more difficult (and in some cases, nigh on impossible) you will find it to get close to someone who is actually worth it. Any break-up, whether its with a partner or a good friend, always makes you question yourself, and its easy to get paranoid. Just remember that when somebody says 'its not you, its me' they may actually be right.

Don't let this ruin your life. Confidence is a bitch to get back once you've lost it.


PS - Hi all

hi

welcome

The way it ended with my ex didn't end in the conventional way. It never had a proper false stop to it and in some ways still doesn't. It's taken me months to get where I am now. Truth be told, even though at times I hate her I still love her and in all honesty probably always will. It'll be easier to paste part of what I sent to her at one time than re-type something with the same gist.