I dont think you are asking too much, but....the guys that seem to fit your bill may well be "bad apples" we are'nt all that bad i suppose it depends what you're looking for.

I disagree, i dont think women are as sincere as you think i believe that most guys are genuine. The fact is that some of us are not given the chance to prove ourselves.

A lot of guys think acting the maggot, makes them attractive, and the frustrating thing is a lot of girls put up with it and reward the behaviour. It gets guys who aren't maggots trying to become a maggot because they think it'll work for them. The end result is you get a whole load of maggots, and a lot of broken hearts.

Plus the internet allows people to be crass and false on a degree that just isn't possible in real life. Just persevere, you'll find the guy.

I dont think you can simply from this site you need to maybe chat on the phone meet up and see how it goes good luck i'm sure theres genuine guys on this site you just aint met one yet

simple answer...you cant...

Well according to Cher, its in his kiss, that's where it is.

I don't think it's as black and white as that, what if a guy was perfectly 'genuine' but after a while it transpired that you weren't what he was looking for?
It's quite possible to initially like someone and then realise after a period of time that you're not that well suited after all (even if the other person still thinks you are)
It's easy to say that a guy was an asshole and used you, or was only after love etc while missing the real reason.

Don't take this as a personal thing by the way, I don't know anything about you or the situations you have found yourself in, and there are plenty of assholes out there.

For instance, what if you met a guy and really hit it off with him, dated for a couple of months but slowly came to realise that his life was ruled by his mother?
Or what about if he turned out to be a Jehova's witness, or you discovered his collection of human skulls?
Would it mean that you had used him if you no longer wanted to continue the relationship?

When you first meet someone, both of you put on an facade, even if it is unintentional, to make you seem more attractive (men will hold in their farts, women will pretend that they are ok with you being friends with your ex etc) As the relationship progresses, this facade gradually falls away and reveals the real you.

I have a set of 'rules' that I follow to try and avoid being an 'asshole', for instance I don't get involved with women who have kids. This is just a personal preference because I don't like kids.
Picture a scenario:

I meet a girl, everything goes great, we go on a few dates.
We end up having love.
She says 'I didn't tell you before because I didn't want to put you off, but I have a three year old daughter' (shows me a photo of child)
I instantly lose interest and try to let her down gently.
I become an asshole.

Now in this situation, I was an asshole because I ran a mile when I found out she had a kid, even though we got on like a house on fire.

But was I? If I was an asshole, I would seduce single mums knowing full well that I had no intention of forming a relationship with them.
I don't think I'm an asshole for not wanting to get involved with girls who have kids, I think it is very honest and 'genuine' of me.

The asshole is in the eye of the beholder....

you can never tell just get hurt over and over again until you give up