I've met a lot of people in my life and I've learned not to trust everyone if anyone at all. The only person I ever really trusted was my dad, and he died 15 years ago. I've been let down so many times, I think its probably best not to totally trust anyone now.

But Daryl, isnt it infinitely worse when you trust someone not to hurt you, lie to you etc and they let you down?
I dont feel sorry for Jegs, in fact I think he's right - I dont trust ANYBODY 100% either...just some more than others.
And I also think Kovacs is right too - unless you have aspergers really bad or summat, we all from a very young age learn the social rule of at the very least side-stepping the truth if not down right lying.
"Do you like my new necklace?"

"No I think it's hideous" would be truthful.
"Its unusual and eyecatching" is being diplomatic.

I try to be as close to 100% honest whenever possible, but unless you want to offend people's feelings, look a prick and have no friends, no one can honestly say they are 100% honest.
Even the pope just smiles sweetly saying nowt if he doesnt want to give an honest answer at times!

Its called tact, and we all use it, some more than others.

honestly hmm... whats that again i dont believe i have heard people being that for a long time...

i tell white lies, like above about peoples choice in clothes, etc 'well it looks great on you' .. as opposed to 'i wouldnt be seen dead in that.' but hate people who lie and it ultimately hurts people, whats the point. plus im pretty naive so believe it lol but thats a whoooooole nother story and the reason why i'm here....

Some people can't handle the truth. For the rest, tact and honesty where it counts.

Yes, but its very sad not to trust anyone in case someone hurts you...

I'm not digging at Jegs, I genuinally feel sorry for him.
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It doesnt always hurt when someone isnt truthful.
Sometimes not knowing the truth can simply be a waste of your time, energy etc.
Only people I care deeply about have the power to hurt me, and thats usually only if their untruthfulness burst my "everythings going my way" bubble.
Sometimes being hurt or at least knowing the truth is necessary in order to understand a situation better.
Thats why they say sometimes the truth hurts, even though a lie - or at least finding out the lie - can be even more hurtful because its unnecessary.
I get annoyed when someone is not honest with me at times - because it means they do not trust me to have the capability to accept a truth that they have decided for me that I cannot handle.
If that makes sense?
I dont believe in saving someone's feelings just for the sake of it, I will only save their feelings with a white lie/side-step the truth if they are obviously feeling fragile. But I wont make the assumption for them that they are not capable of hearing the truth.
The necklace scenario - I would be inclined personally to say summat along the lines of "Its unusual and eyecatching but personally I dont like it, but I dont have to like it do I, its not me wearing it and it makes no difference to you whether I like it or not".
If they expected my approval just to feel good about themselves, then tough luck I aint playing that game.
But, my aunt asked me if she looked okay at her husbands funeral and I thought she looked crap but I said yeah you look lovely because it would have been pointless and downright nasty to tell her she looked like she got dressed in the dark pissed, eh?

I agree with most of that Alice, some definate truths there. Maybe I read too much into Jeggae's post.

But I think you're wrong about the necklace. If you would say that, it's up to you, of course, but I think it does matter to her whether you like it or not. Again, not a dig.
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