i've cheated b4 in relationships,m but only when i knew the relationship was about 2 end, or when i was in an abusive relationship, im not proud of myself for doing it coz it is really bad, but sometimes when u cant get out of the relationship cheating makes u feel better. im not making excuses coz i know it was wrong, but thats my reason 4 doing it.

Ok, I have never cheated on anyone until my sons father was cheating and I did it once for revenge and I felt guilty while he still cheated all the time we were married what a crock of crap on his part and her, well she new better to ever get in my face.

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Ok, I have never cheated on anyone until my sons father was cheating and I did it once for revenge and I felt guilty while he still cheated all the time we were married what a crock of crap on his part and her, well she new better to ever get in my face.

Ooppppssss why does that sound so de-ja-vu ?
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i read all of them,most of sad stories there but experiences too

Never done it myself, but had it done to me, over a six month period of a 2 year relationship, she even got engaged to the other guy at somepoint, when it all came out, she said she kept me just incase it fell through with the guy she was seeing.

Again never done it, never will.
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I'm kinda "old school", having been brought up in an environment where marriage is a lifelong thing and honesty, respect and faithfullness actually mean something to me. So (as you've probably guessed), i've never cheated on a partner. Having said that, modern society seems to take advantage of gullible folk. Needless to say i'm ultra fussy and anything less than perfection is not good enough.

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Just like "Yourmanforever" I have been brought up on respect and faithfullness and to me that means a great deal. If you can't be respectful or faithfull its one of your faults not the partners who you are cheating on, finish the relationship no matter how hard is that to do that. Yes it has happened to me, but I have not gone around thinking it was my fault that it happened. I never forced my wife (at that time) to sleep with one of my friends hell no. if I come across as big headed its not ment that way its just I have faith in the person that i am. I have had to bite the bullet to tell people it was over but no way would or could i sleep with someone new before finishing with the first partner its better to be shouted at than cheat what would hurt you less being told or finding they had slept with someone elese? Sorry in advance if this is seen as a forceful post I kind of have an interest in this "Life without memory is no life at all"

Absolutely Dave. There is NO excuse for cheating. I've been cheated on but did i then go out on a revenge "shagathon"? NO. As soon as i found out, i told her i knew. She said sorry, then went to pack her stuff there and then because she knew me well enough to know that it was over.

In a strange sort of way, it touches my heart to know that she respected me enough to just leave without trying to feed me a load of bullshit. Regardless of that, i think cheaters are scum and i have no respect for them. It can be easily avoided, no matter what the situation is.

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Regardless of that, i think cheaters are scum and i have no respect for them. It can be easily avoided, no matter what the situation is.

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Sorry don't know your name, but I agree with a lot that you say. Were I differ is that I don't hate them or at least not for any length of time. Maybe for a short time I am angry (being human it is natural) but hating is such a negitive force i know its easy to say but it is true. What I do is to try and forget them and move on. that way you put all your energy into something positive. I know it can be hard but hating people only hurts youself and stops you moving on. Hope this makes some sense? "Life without memory is no life at all"

I think "hate" is probably a bit strong but there's definately a loss of respect and trust.

Hi to all. I'm new here. Trough my experience I learned that if you want to cheat, it means that your relationship will end sooner or later and it is pointless to carry on. I cannot c love and cheating together in the relationship:!:

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Hi to all. I'm new here. Trough my experience I learned that if you want to cheat, it means that your relationship will end sooner or later and it is pointless to carry on. I cannot c love and cheating together in the relationship:!:

Hello and welcome.. to the forums. And well said....
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Hi to all. I'm new here. Trough my experience I learned that if you want to cheat, it means that your relationship will end sooner or later and it is pointless to carry on. I cannot c love and cheating together in the relationship:!:

Welcome to the forums gregsky

I have cheated in the past, it wasnt planned or anything, but it turned out to be the worst mistake il ever make. I lost who I think was my soulmate, and it hurt, so I know il never do that again. (I did have my reasons). Had it done to me a few times, but that was mainly down to me picking the wrong person.

The last partner I had I cheated on her, and there was one MASSIVE factor in me doing this: alcohol.

I basically had a female friend who I know from a while ago. She also had a partner at the time, but she had said she was attracted to me, and I admitted the same, but I didn't want to go any further because of my girlfriend. This was all well and good, and things stayed cool between us for a fair while, until one weekend when we met up with one mutual friend apiece. We went out and we were flirting vociferously all night. Admittedly we had a few too many drinks each, and in the end her friend made a move on me. I did kiss her, but only briefly. However when we hit the dance floor my friend made a move in a big way, and sadly I gave in. And it basically went on from there.

It was basically three years of a relationship down the drain for virtually nothing. Me and my girlfriend at the time kept no secrets from one another, so it destroyed her to find out. We broke up from there. It's one of the biggest regrets I have in my life as I really loved that girl, and I never thought I was capable of doing such a thing.

Sorry to waffle, but that's my two pence worth in!

Sorry to say..but if you love somebody, you don't cheat on them. Well, that's what I think.