I had a message that just said hi! and there are quite a few of those, so remembering that a lot of women said they ignore those, oh and no photo either, I tried to be helpful and suggest that writing something which 'jumped out' and was a bit different might get a better response, I was told that he doesn't have a problem. So, as I was not interested anyway, I'm now thinking that may be it's not worth bothering with the 'blanks' (that's what I call them).
For info: Since the 3rd March I have written 330 replies, that is without those where I had sending out problems or those which have ended up with online chat. I also have time which many other women don't.
As for the earlier comment about women 'window shopping', that is also true of many men but I think that's reasonable but that dosen't mean we all want to stay in cyber space. Fortunately, some men do actually like to meet you in person which is why I had 2 enjoyable evenings out this week, but when I've had people from miles away, I just can't see the point. "Are you worth my travelling all that way to see you?" get my drift! haha!!

I very rarely get responses. What annoys me more than not getting responses is when ya send a message asking if someone would like to chat at some point, they get back sayin yes, and thats the last ya hear of them!

Wish i had kept the messages i got from a twat of a bloke last night. They went something like this (not exact though cos ive deleted them):

Him:
Hi how are you??

Me:
Im not bad, yourself??

Him:
When am i getting to see your tits then??

Me:
You never will

Him:
Why not, we've been talking for a while now??

Me:
Errmmm no we aint

Him:
Yes we have so when you getting them out??

Me:
Look i aint gonna do it I have some respect for myself

Him:
Well why not get your "rude word for girly bits" out or something cos its better than looking at your face you sad bitch (or something to that effect). God youve made me lose my hard-on

Me:
Yeah well why dont you go away and trawl the net for some silly tart whos gonna be interested in that cos this is one girl who aint and i think thats all your ever gonna get idiot.

And then i blocked him. And you wonder why sometimes us girlies are wary about replying???

I nor many of us have ever been like that one msn I've spoken to a few on msn and not once have I stepped over the line, friendly banter yes pervyness no.

pmsl vi! I had one guy wanting to worship my feet and he would pay me £30!!! everyone I told said I should have gone for it and make some easy money lol. I was in a bad mood that day so sent him a lovely reply

the trick to getting a reply is to mail practically everyone online and never say the same thing twice, your bound to get a few, even if they are "what are you talking about" and "why do you want to know if im good at ping pong?"

Amazing to own up! Good on you!

coast2coast made some excellent points, and guys not getting responses might do well to heed them. I agree with pretty much all of it, had already been putting it into practice, and I've received about 1000 messages. There's nothing wrong with the site.

ctx - your profile says "discreet encounters".

That translates as "I'm married, but want love on the side".

That's one BIG reason you're not getting responses.