does anyone here message people depending on the distance that they live away from one another.

I message anywhere distance aint a problem, thats just my view on things tho....some feel different I suppose....be boring if everyone thought the same
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Hi Stephen, well I'm not looking on the dating side of things now, but when i was...Yeah, distance made a difference to me.
I was not in a good financial position to be galavanting off to scotland/wales etc if I 'met' someone off here. And as my own financial situation was not affluent I could hardly expect to hook up with some rich bloke who had the financial means to do all the galavanting across the countryside.
That's why I didnt message anyone a very long way away from me, and anyone PMing me from afar I would nip it in the bud because of the distance thing.
If I had the monies to jump on a plane and go see whoever took my fancy, stay in a hotel etc. distance would *not* be a factor.

Hi!
Last year I didn't message according to distance, but that resulted in a lot of wasted time, and once people realised how expensive and how long the travelling time was, they backed off or worse still planned to meet me then disappeared off the face of the earth. I felt a bit of a mug more than once waiting for a no show.
So, this year I'm only chatting to people who live near enough to meet, plus a few who just seem to be lovely guys for friendship.

Yes, for me now, distance matters, 'cos I want to meet people in the real world.......I've got plenty of real friends if I just want to chat.

Distance does matter, but what would you call distant, each person has a different answer depending on their means of transport through to whether they want to invest a certain amount of time or effort to what they perceive they might achieve from the effort.
For me I'd say it was much easier to maintain a friendship than a relationship from a distance, for one you don't have to travel so often to see them (pretty obvious really). I think from a friendship point of view outside the UK would be a prohibitive distance but until that situation arises I guess I really don't know.

I have to agree with Lilacrose too that finances also play a part, I dated a lass for 3 1/2 years that lived 55 miles away but I'd have to seriously consider whether I'd do that again as things have changed so much even over a short period of time.

Having said that I do think that there are factors that override cold analysis, do we ever really know whether someone's worth the time and effort until we try or discover who they really are. Is it right to prejudge a relationship whatever that may be by the factor of distance alone.
I must admit I don't really have the answer to my own question and that's kind of worrying because I might miss a golden opportunity and not even realise it.

I've even been asked whether I'm worth travelling to...how's one supposed to answer that?....of course I'm worth it!!But then what are their expectations?