twistedviolet that's really nice of you to say - I just consider my self as someone who tries to always keep his feet to the ground

simplyme what did you mean you struggle to keep this 'acceptable weight' and inside your overweight? Anyway, if what you say is true about what you think of people I have to say ya amazin lol. But maybe thats because I'm abig girl myself and it just agrees with what I need from ANY person interested? Lol.
Jeggea you are right, but the great thing about the internet is being able to post yourself dolled up AND not!! Most people who DO post the pictures of what they look like ONLY in pictures (and not in real life) are most probably yearning for people to think theyre beautiful? Going to lengths like that (not actually looking like they do in real life).. to get there? They just want some one to look and go 'god.. she/he is BEAUTIFUL?' It's really not any crime for people to want to see who they are talking to like simplyme says, it puts a face to the words. I know I prefer chatting to some one who has a pic, but I also chat to those who don't almost the same, though deep down its hard to connect with the people who dont because all you see is the writing..on the other hand, that actually doesnt matter if the writing is showing a wicked personality. Just my opinion.

I guess honest eyes are kind eyes.. you can tell alot from a person by their eyes (I think) or maybe its me being silly? But I guess to put it a good way would be like you said.. when people look at you... you get a feeling.. if its a bad one.. they arent for you..if its a good one they could be. Of course there are exceptions though. As for internet dating, I think its a great, quick way to find someone who matches you, I mean, you get to know people abit quicker on the internet and then meeting them than say, a party! And the amount of people you meet, you are sure to find somebody for you! Wow I've just realised how bloody obsessed I've become for wanting to meet the right one for me. Oh god.. another obession haha!

what I mean is that I am an overweight person who at the moment has lost some weight, I cannot eat what ever i like as frequent as I would like cause I would put weight again (which really sucks cause I adore cooking), and as shallow as it might sound being on the lower part of the scale makes me feel somehow better about myself - maybe it's the illusion that I might have more chances of getting a date - lonliness makes some nasty jokes at times. However I know that if I dont make sacrifices I will be heading back to the 19 stones I wieghed 6 months ago which honestly I didn't mind much but if you are single you have to somehow try to be more in line with people's expectations, oh i so hate myself for even writing this but I am trying to be as honest as possible. - If I could find someone who wouldn't mind my weight I would feel free to not stay worrying if I put on weight or not - I mean I would feel more myself rather than trying to be what people perceive as acceptable.

Jessicasarah - I dont need to lie here - I am not even tempted to lie all I need to like in a woman resides from the neck up (face and brains) all the rest is a bonus. I wont say oh i will date anyone who comes along even if I dont like their face cause I dont care about looks, cause I would be lying to myself and them - even if it happened to me that a person who at a first time I really didn't feel attracted to in anyway, and after being friends for a while I realized I was in love with just on the basis of who she was - but that's a different story

JS was there a question for me there?

Honest eyes definition: Our eyes are the gateway to our souls - if when you look in someone's eyes you feel as if you dont need to know anything else about a person cause you already know all you need to know even if you've met them for a few minutes consider yourself lucky as something really nice might be just happening. If the experience is good enough you'll loose the rest of your senses (e.g. in a club you might even stop hearing the music) but dont let this distract you - that's gthe most platonic of definitions but not untrue - but honestly eyes tell a lot about people you could be amazed - it's just like being a good listener

simplyme there are plenty of woman on here who dont care about weight, take a look at the thread. And nope there wasn't a question..what did you think I was questioning lol? I have looked into some ones eyes and stopped hearing the music lol! But I think both of us were (young to put it nicely) and too shy! I can honestly agree.. when your abit short of dates you start looking to yourself as the problem, I know I would love to lose more weight before meeting somebody/dating somebody new tbh. I lost just under 2 stone in the course of 2 and half weeks (give or take a little) in (obviously) a VERY unhealthy way, and then got to the point where I decided nobody was worth me going through that! So I need to get to the point where I'm happy with myself (no matter what my weight) before I can date someone I think, because otherwise I will just go the same way, again. So I can see where you are coming from about feeling better slimmer, I guess losing weight for that purpose makes you feel relieved, after all, its only your weight that (you think) is causing people not wanting to date you!

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But the problem with Internet dating is you rely totally on honesty, more then in real life IMO. No matter how long you have been chatting on the net, you might still not know the person when you meet them.[/quote]


You could meet a guy/girl in a pub and be dating for weeks and still not know things about them.

yep me too jelly tot

JS sorry about the question thing i must have misread

Jegea dont give up - take it as a challenge, prove yourself right and everyone else wrong

I cannot understand why people can be dishonest online, hah this is the place where you really have nothing to lose

Well you speak very good english for a non-native speaker!

xx