Nope I've never been into muscles or anything like that! In fact the first things I look for and in this order...

1) Glasses
2) Shoulders (nice shape)
3) Smile

I usually go for quite thick set guys!

We are never permanently one size. As sligorose mentioned she has varied between a size 10 and a size 18. Are men attracted to a size, or to a woman who thinks she is attractive? Lets face it, at the end of the day most men can be satisfied in about 5-10 minutes. What you look like sizewise is largely unimportant in the love department.

Where size is an issue is when it affects your confidence and feelings of self worth. You start to disbelieve in yourself, and this affects your belief in the person you are with. Also if size starts to become a health issue, then it is time to take some action!

There is no point in trying to pretend that a woman who is a good weight for her height, and is well proportioned is more attractive than a skinny woman or an overweight woman. Just as a woman with a hunchback, a squint, abnormally sagging boobs are less attractive than someone without these characteristics.

The question is to find your match in terms of looks, fitness, social status, etc. In theory you only need one match, but for some people that lasting match is elusive. You may find what you want, but it does not want you. Someone may think you are what they want, but you do not want them. You may both want each other, but find that circumstances and life push you apart.

As a mother of an ex-girlfriend said to me "Dance with life, and you will have a friend".

I think there's lots of different points here.

For me, I think lots of women can be attractive, I think Keira Knightly is very sexy, but so is Charlotte Church, who is a lot bigger. I personally play a lot of sport, so I prefer the athletic look, but that doesn't mean I don't find others attractive.

I would much rather see a girl who is size 14 than some think girl with giant breasts like Pamela Anderson. A pretty face goes a very long way too.

Some things about people in general - I'm sure most guys wouldn't rule out a girl who was size 14, but in the same way, someone who is 20 stone isn't just "not thin", they're obese, which is totally different from a "few extra pounds".

Plus, there are also the health problems associated with being overweight. Genetically, if you want someone to have children with, you want the healthiest person you can, not someone who is 10 stone overwweight and can't walk up a flight of stairs without have a 5 min rest afterwards.

I'd prefer slightly more shapely than really skinny (bones on show is not attrcative), but if you give me a choice of Keira Knightly or Dawn French, I know which I'd choose!

I can't say I've really had a problem finding girls attractive, there's hundreds of different shapes and sizes I like, it's getting them to reciprocate that's the problem!!

Ed

I prefer slimish girls.

I also love chinese girls.

I like tits.

I like bums.

Someone said that size doesn't matter in the love department. I disagree: If the girls too big, and your dick's too small, it ain't gonna work out.

Someone blamed the TV mags for promoting slim people, i'm gonna defend the mags. We are seeing more and more overweight people in the UK because of poor diet, little exercise, swivel chairs and the internet. Humans weren't made for this lifestyle. If you look at tribes people you'll see that they're all slim and well toned, though the womans boobs do make the journey down south quicker.

Another point is that if all guys liked fat women, 99% of gyms in the country would go out of business!!

Although there'd be a lot of jobs going the cream-cake and chocolate industries!!

Ed

The fact is that different people like different things. I have a friend who will only go out with ladies of a certain size. He loves larger ladies. I dont really mind one way or the other. It is more about what the woman in question is like as a person than her dress size.

My own preference is for a woman with dark hair and dark eyes but that is just a preference not a neccessity. Same goes for body shape. I prefer a woman with a more curvy figure but that is not a neccessity either.

There is always going to be someone more attractive, thinner, or better shaped than you. Given this fact, is your weight in comparison to other people important? Or is it more important to compare yourself to what you know you can be at your best?

Giving your best and getting the most out of what you have will produce results that some of the most beautiful people, and thinnest people in the world cannot achieve.

For a moment put yourself in the shoes of the most beautiful woman in the world. She can have any man she wants. Men will fight for her attentions. Will she ever be able to achieve what you can? (think about the obstacles in her way). Consider what happens when such a beauty loses her looks due to age. The "Siren" is a seducer of fools. Marilyn Monroe might be able to advise you on what it is like.

Then put yourself in the shoes of the ugliest duckling and fattest women in the world. She obtains a lot of attention from curiousity, and people poking fun at her. As she ages and loses some weight, there is no loss of positive attention. Indeed as she matures she realises that men may consider her not the best looking apple in the bowl, but her outlook on life is more positive. She will make the best of what she has, and will probably find a match as there will be less choice, and a more pragmatic approach succeeds. She will also be very mentally strong, rarely taking things personally.

There are many life paths. The path you take depends on where you start walking from and the decisions you make at each junction. Where you end up depends on your sense of direction, your vision, and your map reading ability.

"see its guys like u that hurt women!! wiv ur silly comments!! at the end ov the day theres women that r soooo much sexier than women that are twigs wot is sexy bout that? nothin at all... they look like they never eat!! id hate 2 b skiny im proud ov my size 14 frame!! regardless 2 wot men like u say!!"

Fortunately, women with your attitude will not be hurt by that kind of thing, because as you say, you're proud of your shape and you don't care what men like him say. (Although I don't think you should insult thin women. Insults about someone's looks are bad whomever they're aimed at).

A girl with the plainest looks and the most generous figure can be sexier than any pretty model just by having a knowing twinkle in her eye and a confident smile that says "I know I'm good. Do you think you're good enough to deserve me?"

Conversely, showing a lack of confidence is not going to be a winner very often, I believe. People really do believe in people who believe in themselves.

Having said that, a woman with a beautiful face and body can become completely unsexy in a split second with a word that betrays her unpleasant personality.

In short, looks aren't just a question of size and conventional beauty. The look in the eye and the smile and behaviour are also very important.

Also, one man's pretty is another man's plain, so an insult from one dork doesn't mean all, or even most, men would agree with the dork.

well for me if theres a spark then doesnt matter wot size although if pushed into a corner i prefer curves

I dont like rake thin women. I feel like i will break them if i hold them to hard. As long as you are healthy, confident and look after yourself then thats fine for me.

If somones overweight it often mean they are unhappy..but also they are not keeping fit & healthy

some people prefer people who can seat or who aren;t out of breath after a walk to the shops, it can indicate a attitude to themsleves, & hence a prospective partner

But often people are happy ebing 20 stone or more...& do give a coco channel about anyone else...you have to say good for them, even if they are't your cup of tea!

S