I am a disabled guy, not just physically but socially, I have autism, and I noticed that if your autistic getting a partner is about as easy as hopping the course of the marathon while holding a small smelly dog. my two questions, one rhetorical, "would you date a disabled person" and the other non rhetorical, " any tips/advice for me"
Thanks

Hi, yes I have dated someone previously, with a disability.

It was always more of an issue for him then it ever was for me.

Just be yourself, be open and honest there isnt much more i can say.

Yes I would, and have.

I imagine that the majority of the population don't really know much about autism, and have gained what little they do know from films such as Rainman and the sensational stories when somebody has an exceptional skill in say maths, or art. So, this ignorance makes it harder for you too, but be hopeful as I'm sure there will be somebody out there who would love to meet you.

I think it's great that you've come on to the forums and hope that you will add your posts to other threads as well as this one you've started. It would help break down barriers that unfortunately exist in our society.

I would quite happily date a disabled person, although i would probably annoy her because i'm one of those people who like to help..
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I have 'disabilities'; I don't talk it and I don't let it bother me, and on the whole it seems that it has rarely (if ever) affected my dating/social life. Having said that, I feel that I am socially confident (albeit reluctantly sometimes), so perhaps I am not qualified to offer the best advice.

Vaguely related, and something that I realised recently, is that general health issues can impact on exisiting relationships. Although I am aware of how much pain I am in, I forgot how much things like that impact on the other important people in my life.

just be you, and by being you whomever you attract will get to know the entirerty of you.

You are not defined by the body or what you can or can not do, people who view it the other way are not worth your time let alone your affection.

Happy searching....

Disability encompasses so many things you might find it harder not to date a disabled person!

I have Asperger's, and although it can pose certain challenges, it's not a death knell when it comes to dating. For some people, my Asperger's has been one of the main factors in their attraction towards me, and I often find myself attracted to women who exhibit autistic-spectrum traits. I also know quite a few people with autism-spectrum disorders who're in relationships or married, though females with ASD's do seem to have an easier time of it than males when it comes to forming and maintaining relationships, from what I've observed.

With ASD's, a lot depends on a person's co-morbid conditions, and for me, ADD, a tendency towards depression and a low tolerance for stress are much more significant hindrances than Asperger's, but even those factors have only made things more difficult, rather than impossible.

Not everyone is looking for a Prince Charming who'll keep them and their 20 kids in luxury, or a trophy wife who'll be the envy of the neighborhood. Some people just want to spend some time with a person who they can relate to and who's company they enjoy, and there are plenty of people of either gender with a multitude of quirks and difficulties.

I've dated someone with Autism and you learn to accept their sometimes quirky traits. My gf used to check her purse over and over to make sure she had everything she needed, lipstick, keys, phone and so on (also known as Obsessive Compulsive Disorder). At first it was frustrating for me because I've always timed everything so I would arrive at a given time. I'd be waiting and looking at my watch while she checked and rechecked the contents of her purse, if I said something and broke her concentration, she would start again. Eventually, I learned to start out a few minutes earlier to allow for it.

In the end, I guess everyone has their quirks and part of learning to live with each other is the acceptance of them. No doubt my gf had to learn to live with mine

Autism is not as socially limiting as it used to be. Years ago, Autism was seen as someone who would suddenly throw a tantrum and sit rocking in a corner if you did something they didn't like. Now, it's more socially accepted since people are aware that there are different levels of it.

i havent been with anyone disabled .. but i wouldnt say no .. for me its all about personallity and connection and naff all about the exterior

i would suggest u stop looking for love cause u will never find what u r expecting which mean love can be easily missing .. i would suggest getting out more .. doing more stuff in groups .. this will give u practise as well as confidence

I have artheritus, i never had anyone not wanting to be with me because of it.
And my X had a disability/ ilness and it never bothered be what so ever.
Its the person I love.

There's a girl on here with autism who has one of the best written, sincerely genuine and most thorough profile's I've ever read. Emotionally moving and morally sound... and that counts for far more than looks or age ever will. Ponderous how a disability as enabled these qualities...