i like this girl at work. when i first started there she flirted with me a lot last year, we've kissed twice on work nights out, but for one reason or another i've never said anything to her about it. last week i decided i had to get this out in the open, and as she left work i caught up with her (had to get on her train without a ticket to find her). i kind of babbled a bit, but i said i knew i kissed her, i didnt fully come out with it, but i'm sure she now knows i like her. she was kind of blank through the whole thing, but said we should get a beer next time we're on same shift.(we sometimes do this). the last couple of days have been hectic at work, and we've been on different shifts. but lately shes been sitting next to my desk, though she doesnt usually. thing is, she doesnt want to talk to me, or makes like shes not interested. i'm starting to take the hint, even though i really like her. thing is, its creating these awkward silences at my desk, and i don't want to move. why come sit near me if you dont want to talk to me???

Maybe she's working? So you should be, too. Try making conversation. If she didn't like you then she wouldn't sit near. She'd avoid you!

i know, it's wierd! on the one hand, she's making me feel really unwelcome, but theres so many other places she could sit.....

i think she does like you and wants you to ask her out and thats why shes sitting next to you but shes shy about it so thats why she doesnt say anything and its a but uncomfortable

I think there are two answers and my friends agree with me...

1. She's real shy and can't find a common subject (maybe except for work), but she enjoys being close to you.

2. She doesn't care much and she does this to tease you, because she knows you like her. Peeps do that usually, when they know someone likes them but they don't like them back the same way. It's a self esteem/self satisfaction thing.
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she could like you but be shy about it or she could not like you and the reason behind her sitting near you could be one of two

either as someone else said shes teasing you or she feels awkward about it but she doesn't want you to think she hates you.

personally i think the idea that she is teasing you is the most unlikely to be true.

ok, i sat opposite her today, was talking a little bit to her this time...she wasnt being overtly disinterested. shared a bus to the station, she had a train to catch. i mentioned who owes who the beer, was a little bit cheeky, she didnt seem to mind. she said that she was round a friends tomorrow, but she seemed to pull this out of thin air. she seems to be playing hard to get-not showing too much interest, but not pushing me away, and being discrete amongst our colleagues....

Perhaps she's unsure about getting involved with a work colleague. I for one would never even entertain the idea, and I know i am not alone in thinking that way.
Or she could be testing the water...

Grab her tits, do the Crouchy, then moonwalk across the room.

lol.....grabbing her tits first seems a tad forward...how about grabbing her tits whilst doing the crouchy? stroking in robotic motion? to top it off, i could make crummy hydraulic sounds between my teeth at the same time? that way, if she doesn't like it, i can blame it on some sort of syndrome, perhaps the bosses will even give me a special chair?

Tell her you don't want to play games, unless you like being fucked about and tell her you want to see her soon, coffee, beer... whatever. Stop piddling in the pool and swim.

Teggro - do you often piddle in pools?

Silver, i think you are reading far too much into things here. You seem to be analysing her every move and facial expression. Well stop it. Turn the whole thing round. Make out like you dont really care, and are not interested. Take a call in front of her on your mobile from "Emily" (Make sure your phone is on silent before you do this cos you will look a right twat if it rings mid conversation!) and be very flirty down the phone. Even arrange a "date" and say things like... "oooh, are you really going to wear that? Mmmm....yes please".... just make out like some woman wants you all over the place.

She will either run a mile, or be driven to come after you more. If she likes you, and is worth her salt, it will be the latter.

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the problem about asking us about her is that we only know as much about her as you tell us


unfortunately not every girl is the same. for instance if she is like DTH then i have not doubt that her idea will work well, but if she's like me then shes likely to run a mile whether she likes you or not.