Hey ! Me and a friend were talking about dating sites last night and i wanted to know what everyone else thought !!


Can you really find love on the internet ? Or is is just lust ?

Can you really trust people you talk too ?

Have you ever met someone off a dating site and it wasnt the person in the pic you saw of them ?

Come on lets see what other people think

Sam x x x x

In answer to your questions:

Yes, you can find love.

Yes, if you can spot the bs'ers and users.

No, but then I haven't met anybody yet.

Ta-da.

I suppose you can find love but you have to careful.

I've met one person from a dating site. The beautiful 27 yr old turned out to be at least 50 (I shoulda known she was too good looking lol).

It kinda out me off meeting people again, but I'm still hanging around for the crack...

i have been lucky in the sense that all the people i have met off the internet have been who they said they were in a photograph. but i dont just meet people whilly nilly, i want to spend a bit of time getting to know them a bit first so maybe thats why.

i dont know what i would do if i met somebody who wasnt the person they said they were in a pic, probably just walk away as thats a crap way to start any kind of relationship with somebody, lieing.

also you see people on here with pictures that are like 10 years out of date, whats that all about? the pic no longer represents what those people look like anymore so why do that? in my opinion thats just as bad because its deceptive.

Well it's been proven that people can find love on these dating sites..there's a few on here

But I do think people have too high an expectation from these sites..at the end of the day..'what will be will be'...

I think that it is possible to find love on a dating site, even though it is also true that the harder you look, the harder it is to find.
I suppose there is an element on here that are full of shit, but they are pretty easy to weed out, what is too good to be true 'generally' is, but I think 90% of the peeps I have spoken to have been honest.
(Not that speaking to the other 10% can't be entertaining mind you.)

I haven't met anyone from here , but only because I am not actively looking for a relationship at all right now, and I am only really 'here for the forums' (god, I hated saying that).....

Yeah, I know people that have found love via dating sites, although one travelled out to the States to see his girl and fell for her sister

As for pics that are old, well that really annoys me, for many people I have seen their same pic up since I joined, so that means they must look at least one year different. I won't say older, 'cos I look younger since I gave up work and do what I want .....ha!ha! As I make the effort to update my pics I don't see why so many people don't. Also, how many men say they've got a particular colour hair, when in actual fact they don't have any! I think it's deceitful, but I usually ask before I meet someone as to whether they would be recognisable from the pics I'd seen of them.

Am going to put my 2p in here cause I have been pulled up about it. I have naturally curly hair and I've said that in my description but in my pic I have straightened my hair. Because I'm not actually looking for anyone I didn't think it was an issue maybe some of the others are the same and that's why they don't update?

Also you can meet someone in a pub or "real life" and think you know them but you don't. Happens all the time....


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In all honesty I think it's only a very lucky small minority of people who actually find lasting love on the Internet. You only have to look around all the dating sites and see how many of the same people have been on them for years and years to realise this. One of the problems I think is that the people you get on dating sites tend to be damaged -- I'm not talking about anyone specifically and no one on here, so no second guessing to be done.

You'd be suprised for example how many man-haters there are on dating sites, who have trouble relating to men and just don't like men very much. And all the people who seem really nice at first, but then turn out to be fucking mental. The Internet addicts who spend their whole lives online, using it as a substitute for having a real life. And all the women who are going to be on dating sites for the rest of their lives because no one is ever good enough for them, and they always have their eye out for someone better, and so they just go from one to another, ad infinitum.

Of course, I am writing this from a man's perspective so obviously I'm talking about my experience with women on dating sites -- I'm not saying it's only women who are the culprits. I've no doubt that there are a lot of blokes who are just as fucked up in the head.

So.. yeah.. finding love? Maybe, for a tiny minority... for most of us it's just frustration after frustration until you realise it's a pointless waste of time.

I personally wouldn't go as far as saying a total waste of time.
I think that it would be unwise to expect any great results from online dating, or to concentrate all your efforts at finding Mr/Mrs 'Right' in just that one place, cos let's face it the odd's are not really in your favour.
But I think the attitude to have is, well, it can't do any harm can it?, just to at least get yourself out there and mingle on-line, as well as in the real world......

It depends on how you look at it.
I always used to be a REALLY confident person, but when I first split up with my ex, I was a mess, I had no self confidence at all, and even after a year had passed I still had little self confidence, and found it really hard to even talk to people.
I started using the net for that reason really, as a way of getting myself back in the swing of things without actually having to be there.
For me, anyway, I'd still be a quivering mess if it was not for connecting with people on line, it helped rebuild my confidence to the same sort of levels as before.
So (for me anyway), even though I haven't fallen in love with anyone on line, I have made some good friends on-line, who probably without knowing it, have helped me get my life in order.
Obviously, I'm still a little bit of a freak, but I like me that way......

There are no rules to life I'm afraid, just do what pleases you and F*ck everyone else.......