is it me or is the dateing game more harder after 30 coas i have been single for 5 years now made attempts but still no joy or am i going about it all wrong.... help

God i hope not....i 30 on the 19th....not looking forward.

hang on that means i was 25 when i split with my ex wife dam got the heading wrong lol never mind

may be it is me i dont know may be a confidence problem hangs over me any suggestion on how to aproach confidence building tips

this is already been gone over on another thread...hey im 50 and am having a blast..just remember u get wiser as u get older and there are lots of people out there over 30 feeling the same way as you...keep your chin up and u will find it does get easier

I'm not sure in my case it's so much my age as my situation in life at the moment. I seem to be at a stage where younger guys want their own kids and older ones don't want to take on my kids (hmm, actually, maybe it is an age thing )

Note here that my expertise in this is minimal. It seems to me that our circumstances are partly our own doing. When younger we go to schools and universities where there are a multitde of siilarly aged people whose hormones are also kicking in. Later we associate with comfortable friends and fall into routines. Then something changes and we are alone again.

So is it now harder, yes. Sorry but I don't subscribe to the Mills and Boon vision that romance will just happen. We need to let other partners know that we are available and looking. And do this in an environment where the multitude of weirdos make woman suspect any first contacts.

So no I don't have any great answers. But first impressions are major, and take things in small steps.

Ray