So I meet this girl, ..we have a few drinks then the time comes where she had to go home. She had previously explained to me that she had to get home for the kids and I had no problem with that at all.
Then she asks me if I would like to come back to her house with her to meet them and I said yeah no problem I’d love to. Anyway to cut a long story short she didn’t have to get back to her kids at all as they were with their dad and would have dropped them off anytime she wanted, ..she had invited a load of her mates over and she wanted to get back for them, so for the rest of the night I have to put up with a bunch of drunk screaming women and all their kids running around giving me a seriously bad headache! If I had a gun I would have shot myself. Now she keeps ringing me asking why I don’t want to see her anymore, …am I being unreasonable?

No babe, at the end of the day if a woman lies to you within hours of meeting you it doesn't bode well as to what that relationship would be like in the long run. I do think you should just be honest with her though and she what she says in return.

She was out of order you did the right thing!

I'd be wary anyhow. I'd never invite anyone to meet my kids after a first date, or a second or a third. What the hell was she thinking?
Children do not need a constant parade of men through their lives whether they have a father about or not. It's not nice, very confusing and very unfair.

PMSL at the original post

the irony is u sat there and listen to all the crap , i would have just walked out the moment it get this worst. there is no point wasting you time on some one who doesn't have tiniest bit of common sense.
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whats with all the crazies, she gives us saneish women a bad name

OMG that is so funny (cos it did not happen to me so I can laugh at it) sorry but it is. What a loon....

I went on a first date and got totally wrecked. Too pissed to eat my dinner or judge if I actually fancied the bloke. Oh how I can laugh now....

Why didn't you just go home when you found out you were witha bunch of lunatics?

/Well unless you were on the promise of a snog and you were desperate /

On the subject of being introduced to kids, due to my age most of my ‘dates’ have older kids (i.e. not living at home) so not really an issue. On the very few occasions – twice actually - that I have been introduced to ‘dates’ kids (living at home), they have been primed about who and what I am before-hand, and on both occasions there was the possibility of a long term relationship, so I felt it appropriate that I was introduced briefly to the kids. Personally, I think the first time (or perhaps even longer, depending on circumstances) someone stays overnight (or weekend, whatever) with someone who has kids, it should be when the kids aren’t there, possibly when they are with their other parent, although I think it is acceptable to still be there when they return, on the verge of leaving, so you can say hello (what can I say, I have good manners and some old fashioned ideas )

Thats serious red neck behaviour mate, did she live in a trailer park or what?

i had an awful first (and last) date once. I'd asked her out by accident. she took a bit of mindless flirting seriously, and i didn't have the heart to tell her i wasn't serious so i decided to get to know her better and see how it went. Anyway, talking to her that night was an incredibly hard job. I'm normally ok at keeping the chat going, but this night was exceptionally hard going. I ended up talking more to a random bloke who'd only asked if he could take the chair next to me. We both tried to get her talk more, but all was lost. On the way home i felt sad, it felt as if i'd been out alone & it damaged my confidence for a few weeks too, as i was wondering what i'd done wrong or could have done better. I never spoke to her again after that night.

My first ever date was just after I turned 18 and this girl asked if I wanted to take her to the cinema. So I drove to pick her up, extremely nervous, she chose a horror film and spent the whole date hiding her face in my chest, and kissed me at one point for a while. Had a nice drive home, then when I asked if I could see her again, she told me she preferred her female friend and never spoke to me again.

And my 2nd and most recent date was for a ball, where the girl was a friend of a friend, and she turned up, ignored me when I said hello, and refused to say one word to me, before she left an hour later.

What a cowbag! Hope you pissed in her punch?