Hi there !

Im here now for a month or so, trying to get in contact with some girls of my interest.
I wrote 51 messages, got 15 back. All negative in one or the other way. Some with no more than 3 words.
I have 19 girls in my “I want to meet” box and none in the “who wants to meet me” box.
There are quite a view female pictures in my “visitors” box and more pictures already dropped out of it due to lack of space. So, girls do look me up!
I try to be in the chatroom almost every day and ppl there should have seen me although I usually keep in the background because I am not native english and cannot keep up with the chatting speed.
Observating what other people chat there let me doubt if Im in a yahoo-chat or in a dating chat. There is a lot of “hi hi hi” and “ha ha ha” but I didnt see anybody dating there.

Now, we supposingly signed all up here for the same thing – dating – because it seems that nowadays it isnt possible to do so in the pub down the street or we are personally simply not able to do so. Eighter way, this forum should be a help for those who are to shy or to dumb (me included) to do so.

What I wanna say is, we are all in the same boat! We are here to date!

Ok now. How you can imagine I am allready quite upset of how things work out here. I refere to – to me it seems that girls continue doing the same sheit here than they do in the pub down the street.. They show up in my visitors box and wait untill I contact them instead of getting in contact with me. Later on I have to read complains that boys write stupid messages of only “How are you” and nothing more.

Well today something made me furiouse and I wanna share that with you hoping that YOU GIRLS START TO GET EMANZIPATED (cause that is what you like to be) or if you cannot do so, at least STOP BITCHING AROUND!

Following:

A: I saw a cute girl of my age at the online ppl. She Hungarian. I get out of my way and google up my first contact message in her language. “Hello. Good evening. How are you doing? My name is <Name>. What is your name.” Then I finished saying : now my tongue broke, cant do any more”

B: szia,which language do you want to use?German or English? R… vagyok,i am R….Jól vagyok,köszönöm.I am ok,thx. jó estét kívánok. Hogy vagy? mi a neve? a nevem <Name>. Now my tongue broke. Cant do any more;) and Servus is German,Szervusz is Hungarian. How are you?Te hogy vagy?

A: Lets meet in the chat room right now

B: which chatroom,i do not use them

A: pasting her the address of the chatroom

B: i will not go there,i am sorry

A: Why don’t u wanna go there ? What are u afraid of ?

B: but no

A: Ok then, suggest some other way to communicate with me.

B: i do not trust,okay?something happened in the last year but i cannot tell you because,i dont trust.

A: Get over it. Its not my fault what happened to you last year neighter the fault of the other people here in the forum.

B: i hope you understood now,i do not want.if you do not understand i block you

A: I blocked her

I nearly sent you a pic of me up my apple tree 2 years ago! but I didn't, because I'm not what you're looking for and I could tell that.

Yawn
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Surely one knock back from this hungarian bird isn't the end of the world...you know the saying ..'build a bridge and get over it'..!!!

Maybe moaning about the opposite sex on a public forum is unattractive?

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What? No answer
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Have u stopped and thought that maybe the girls you have messaged dont see u as their type? Or maybe the message u send out is a bit copy and paste type? People dont like that, i hate that. What typ of message do u send 2 girls?

Ardal, has occurred to you that you might be doing well?
And you're working the system as hard as you can.
You haven't achieved what you wanted, but you have been here less than a month and you've had 15 replies. You know there are people here longer than that and they haven't seen one reply. It's not guaranteed to supply you with a handful!

Were all of the people you wanted to meet recently logged on?
(They were current, not old, users.)

Couldn't you have given that Hungarian lady a little more time, a little more space, to do something? What was your hurry?
Did you put yourself in her shoes, ardal?
Someone told me, if you don't agree, that's what you have to do...
Put yourself in the other person's shoes.
Then walk a mile in those shoe.
Then, if you still can't agree, at least you're a mile away...
And <Tee-Hee> you've got their shoes!
(Anyone want to buy a pair of Someone's shoes? )
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Why do you see those 4x4 off-roaders being driven over any road bumps so slowly?

well ive been on here a week now and maybe u think im rude but i dont reply 2 people im not interested in because at the mo, i seem 2 get tons of messages from people so i would spend my whole time saying thanxs but not thanxs and i especially wouldnt reply if its just a hi or a copy and paste type message and if its from a 40 or 50 year old man, im 27 so clearly i wouldnt be interested so why hurt there feelings and say, ur ugly or ur 2 old and even more so if its clear they havent read my profile! Call me rude but thats how i see it!

I agree with missjb. I used to reply to everything, but it gets boring after a couple of dozen 'hi wana chat' messages. People ignoring you is the nature of the site, so live with it. Lets face it, if people who ignored you instead replied to all your messages with 'thanks but no thanks' then you'd still be here feeling annoyed, albeit with a fuller inbox.

I had sent about dozens of messages but alas no reply, but I won't cry or get bitter about it! The thing is to be philosphical; there is someone out there give them time!

Yeah, I suppose you do need to be philosophical, and to some extent play the numbers game.
I know its different for women with a nice photo in that they'll get lots more messages than men will tend to & may not want to reply to them all. I think personally though I'd rather be told 'I'm not interested because you're too old/ugly/look like an axe murderer' or whatever rather than not know. I can only speak for myself but that stuff doesn't hurt my feelings as much as being ignored (not that that hurts them much either), at least if you know a reason you know that its down to women's different personal preferences rather than wondering what it is that's leading them to not even return your messages (profile self-doubt).

May just be a Mars/Venus thing, or just me being too analytical.