Just wanted to add my 'well done' to Orbazm

(I came across this one late 'coz I've been without an internet connection for a week or so)

Boo to moving house

Hooray for Orbazm and level-headed advice!

Exactly, Thankyou.

I knew I wouldn't be the only one talking "rubbish"

Man I love these girls

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thanks 4 the advise people, wil let u no how it goes

Orbz, you is a fkin poet dude!

Hahahahaha....



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I agree with 98% of what Baz says. It's pretty clear that he's got down exactly how to approach and talk to women to get what he wants (and I say what he wants, wihch is fine, because that might not be what other guys are looking for, and thats fine too!)

I'm literally learning this stuff (through a mixture of reading everything I can and trail and error) and so far, results have been mixed. There are two important things to remember, I've found:

1). Attraction isn't a choice. You're either attracted to someone or you're not, so don't take it personally if the girl (or guy!) isn't attracted to you, just move on.

2). Women (and men!) are not mythical creatures that you can't just go an talk to. 99% of the time you will not get someone laughing at you, or making fun of you, for going to say hi to get to know someone. If you do, trust me, that person isn't worth the effort you were going to put in.

If you need to, go and practice. How? A really good way is to go into a shop or store that's selling something that needs a bit of explanation (a TV, or MP3 player, or something) and go up to the sales person and start a conversation. It'll get you used to just approaching people. Once you're comfortable doing that, try it when you're out. Baz's point on looking beyond the physical is a really good one - don't go up to someone thinking how good looking they are, or you'll create a mental block.

Look for a good way to start a conversation. A great one I like to use (and you can use it in any bar) is if the woman is drinking something even slightly out of the ordinary (a cocktail for example) then catch her eye, look at the drink, then back to her eye, walk over and ask her what on earth it is she's drinking. Instant lead in to a conversation. Gentle teasing is good too - try the drink and make fun of how strong it is, accuse her of being an alcoholic, but with a smile on your face. Humour is extremely attractive.
If you can't continue the conversation, practice, practice, practice until you get better.

Worked for me anyway!