I kinda arranged a date with a girl I meet online, but I really need to cancel it... yeah, I know, I'm abit of a dick, but here are my reasons:

Solid reasons:-
* I kinda have coursework and an exam next week to do, and so I'm pretty sure it was a bad idea to schedule it for this weekend as I did.

* The actual location is somewhat inconvient for me.

Not-so-solid reasons:-
* I'm getting a very bad gut feeling from her. I suspect she has self-confidence issues, and some of her interested seem increasingly troubling.

* She may be unpleasantly fat (yeah, I know, I shouldn't throw stones in glass houses - and there's 'fat' which is ok, and unpleasantly fat, which isn't) - her older photos are pretty fat, but her most recent one seemed much less so ... until I realised that the angle was very flatering (the 'MySpace angle'), and hence I think its hiding alot - her body below the top of her chest isn't even visible.

* I'm really reconsidering the idea of online dating - meeting people online and then meeting up in real life, fair enough, but I don't think dedicated sites just make it too easy to hide stuff.

Basically, I would prefer to NOT to hurt her feelings, or minimize the amount of hurt feelings. All advice welcome...!

just tell her she is fat ugly and boreing, no hang up on your side it is only a few words written on the computer...

You will probably hurt her feelings no matter what you do, to be honest.

If she has self-confidence issues, they could be due to her weight. So whether you meet her or not, she will probably think you had a problem with her weight.

I met a women who was big. When I cooled of on meeting her again, she was convinced it was her weight, when it wasn't, I had other problems at the time, but she wouldn't believe me.

Seems to me if you don't want to meet her, you have three options..tell the truth, lie..or just stand her up. If you tell the truth its best to break it to her easy.

Or you can meet her, then tell her you didn't click. Which might be better, but she will still blame her weight probably, and maybe be upset if she likes you. I'd go down this root myself.

Why dont you go, become friends with her instead ?!

then she wont be hurt and you wont feel like a knob for hurting her

Ha, mate. Put some stuff on yer profile!!! And you make the point of peeps 'hiding stuff'

You're making this more hard work for yourself. Could avoid situations like 'this' (well how your percieving it) if you set your stall out.

You seem to be at the moment "cautiously trying out the internet 'dating' thing. I'm looking local as I'm studying pretty much full on the 'mo, so getting out and about to meet really just meet new people would be cool. So not really up for too much web-chat or romancing online, really doing this to escape from the from the comp, a bit of poision is the cure (possibly) in that respect...[or allude to some social titan is being unshackled...er, whatever]

Obviously change this when yer course is up - basic I know but, you are floudering . As for the date, as the guy says honour it. Don't percieve too much from her side, and just go in social mode (2 pints) and get back in the saddle of going on dates/meeting random folk.
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Ahh, fair point.

There is a prob peeps find with confirmation e-mails on here. I think if you use the search here in the forum, some fix, or thread will come up about it.
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Id rather someone was truthful with me! especially if she has low confidence so regardless of what you do she is goin to be hurt! i stick with honesty being the best policy but choose your words wisely

I agree with essexguy, go on the date anyway and give her a chance. If at the end of it there's no chemistry at the very least you might make a friend out of it.
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Whatever you do, DON'T BE A 'NO SHOW' that is the worst, I'd favour somebody being honest whatever the reason, but if it's a personal thing just be tackful with what you tell her.
Showing up and just deciding to be friends might be a good thing too. I often wish a guy would just want to be a friend.

Sometimes I wonder why I bother.

I think the lesson here is to learn to recognise myspace angles quickly... lol

When I said 'don't be a no show' I meant that it's ok to cancel...... just meant don't not show up without letting her know so she's not just standing around waiting and wondering where you've got to or had an accident...

So as this thread was started a while ago, are you going to update us manicman as to what you did do. and what was the outcome?