Four months ago I asked a girl out, didn’t know her, she works 2 buildings over. Date went well. she says to call her and we swap numbers, one week later I give her a call, no answer (did not leave message). 2 days go no call back, I send a text message, no response. I figure that’s lost cause.

Fast forward to 2 weeks ago. I spot her again at this raffle thing, she sees me. I score a set of concert tickets, when I get back to my seat she and her friends are standing right next to me (before across the room). So I went for it, asked if she wanted to go to the concert, she said yes. I told her I would email her the ticket info. One week later I send her an email, concert isn’t for 6 weeks. So I see if she wants to grab dinner after work, early nothing high pressure. She says yes, getting closer to the dinner date, she is sending me message how excited she is for dinner (almost 2 eager?). we grab dinner, goes well. Both have a good time. Ends with her saying she will email me her # and we’ll go out again.

This bring us to today… week and 1/2 later I have no email from her? I’m thinking messaging is a bad idea because it could be repeating what happened 4 months ago.

The only option I can think of doing is nothing… don’t want to repeat what happened four months ago. Going to her office face to face is an option, but I cant get a read on how bold this girl likes it. Can anyone think of a better idea. remember were still planning on going to this concert in 3-4 weeks and its just going to be awkward if that’s the next time I see her.

She's pissed off with you because you said you would call her and made her wait a week. Then you said you would email her and made her wait a week.

Now she is making you wait.

She might still like you as she took her time to go out with you - I would hope it wasn't all an elaborate plot to just get the chance to leave you hanging like you left her.

I'm sure you didn't even realise you were doing it. go and talk to her. Straighten it all out and show a bit more willing next time. She might not be as eager as you think, but she is definitely not happy with being made to wait.

I concur.

Never leave it more than a couple of days max. before you call a woman. And have a damn good excuse if you do.
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choochi you read my mind thats exactly what i was thinking

I tried to keep it brief (short), here are some details that I left out:

four months ago the only reason I waited a week is because I was going on vacation, and told her I would call her in a week when I get back.

Going to her office face to face is an option, but I cant get a read on how bold this girl likes it.

So, you going to conduct this whole thang by acting how you think she might want you to act?
Or you going to be yourself and do what you think is the right thing to do?

Personally, I would march into her office, loaded down with some flowers and say outright, "Let's cut the shillyshallying, if we'd not bumped into each other at that raffle we would have gone our separate ways. Now, do you want me or not???"

You'll find out where you stand one way or tuther then.

I have the perfect solution but it involves doing the Crouchy, which is not for the faint hearted.

This'll be good...

Turns out I had an email waiting for me when I got to work… thanks for the advice anyhow

Well? How did things turn out?

Nice work man!

Enjoy yourself!