I know what the answer is for some men..
But do we women need a man to have an outstanding personality to feel sexually attracted to him? Or can we just like men enjoy random love with the good looking & bollock brain?!

Hmmm a brain would be nice.... doesn't have to be outstanding, but for me, if a guy doesn't have a bit of intellectual interest about him, I'd find it a turn off.... I guess I like the mind, body, and spirit to all be there.
This reminds me of seeing a gorgeous guy on an uncrowded bus and he started a conversation with the driver but hearing him was a complete turn off.

I actually find a good personality and intelligence a lot more attractive than whatever is on the outside. I would rather sleep with a guy who isn't that great looking, but could hold a conversation and make me laugh the next morning. Waking up next to an attractive jerk is not fun.

I personally look for nice eyes and smile first! just because someone is a piece of eyecandy doesn't mean to say that they don't have unpleasant traits, It's why i can't understand why peeps on dating sites are so gauche and shallow!
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This guy is liscensed to chill, and thrill, but the opportunities to thrill are rather less than anticipated!!!!

Considering the behavour I've observed, I would conclude that there are some deeply nasty women out there who happen to be very good looking. In fact I have a nasty suspicion some are nasty and unpleasent to people precisely because they are good looking, and know they can use that to get away with such behaviour.

Now would I want to sleep with them anyway?....
No the cost is too great to my self esteem.

Now there are some very nice women I've met who are..well not exactly startlingly good looking to say the least. But who are very kind and very aggreeable people to meet and work with.

Occaisionaly I meet a nice women who is good looking....and they are usualy happily married with kids.

I meant that in the real world there are probably just as many people who will still be judging by looks alone.

I think I've said before in other threads, MR.Average, normal, usual etc... just doesn't 'rock my boat' and tends to put me off, BUT that doesn't mean I want a 'bad boy' type either I just like quirky and different as they're more likely to understand me and the way I am too.

However, most of my female single friends ARE looking for the normal, average Mr.Nice guy AND TRULY ARE NOT GOING FOR THE GOOD LOOKING HUNKY GUYS

I KNOW they're also not put off by some extra weight, in fact most prefer that to thin guys BUT the most difficult quality most of them have in finding in a guy is the ACCEPTANCE OF THEIR EXISTING FRIENDSHIPS IF ANY OF THEM ARE MALE!

As people get older there's been more years to form good lasting friendships of either love and yes, some men don't even like their partners to have same love friends either.

Actually Jegs I think a lot of things we've mentioned are the same for guys looking for women as well.

I know I've also been rejected by men quite a bit when they see my picture too, the 'you're not my type' comes to mind, and that's even been 'for friendship' where I wouldn't have thought that was an issue...... so long as the mode of dress didn't get you banned from places you wanted to go to, but looks for friendship? that just shows an insincere motive I guess.

I KNOW I can't trust the web pics either, but seeing somebody on cam is better, as you can see the body language when you're talking to them.

I agree with you about people being influenced by the amount of messages and flattery they get on the web although I tend to be very suspicious if it's 'over the top' but have learned to accept compliments graciously in the same way that I may dish them out too.

As for the type of man I attract on the web or in real life, I don't really think there's much difference when I'm in London, but where I live now in Norfolk there is.
I don't lead the kind of life that has the same opportunities to meet men as I did in London. My social group here is mainly females already in relationships, so I know their men, but we're not out and about in places 'on the pull'. I get the odd guy join me on a seat about town or delivery man asking me out, but I've not fancied any of them enough to accept.
I wished I'd come onto dating sites like this when I lived in London as most men attracted to me now and whom I like too, tend to be living in London, followed by Dublin, Glasgow and Manchester... all the big cities it seems.
I've definitely found it easier in Norfolk to arrange dates with people from the net rather than coming across somebody in real life. It's not just about having the dates, it's about finding someone that intrigues me and has enough about them to sustain my interest in wanting to know them more deeply.
The net is good for 'minds' as people often find it easier to express their thoughts and feelings in writing so I think you can get to know someone more intimately before you meet than a 'real world' date.

Apparently it's whats on the inside that counts, but I don't think that a relationship can be formed successful if it is not built on some basis of physical attraction. Of course looks aren't all that counts, but I think it's fairly hard to disagree that they aren't important in today's society.

I actually wish it wasn't the case to be perfectly honest. If you think about it, there would be a wider array of possible matches for most people and you wouldn't get this elitism and bitchiness that comes with high self-esteem. If personality was all that matters then people wouldn't act the way they do or treat people the way they do when searching for a potential partner.

For instance, 90% of the women on this site will not even reply to the majority of messages, even if they are coming from someone who is probably on par with their league, simply because they expect something special. It's like there is a magical code that will let you pull every time but if you don't say that thing exactly correctly then you will be judged quickly and indefinitely based on that first impression. Usually this sort of attitude originates from the inevitable, cocky, high self-esteem that is often accompanied by high levels of attraction.

The biggest problem is THAT SPARK even if you've fancied someone in every other way, is it there or not when you finally meet for real?

You have to be somewhat attracted to a person on looks alone...I'm not saying looks are everything though.

Personality is more likely to 'wow' me than looks.