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08.04.2007, 18:51 quote

Anonymous

Whats so 'bloody hell' about that?

 

08.04.2007, 18:58 quote

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Baggiebhoy wrote:
Whats so 'bloody hell' about that?


I dread to think how many nasty messages I'd get if I started stipulating what colour I like my guys! It's bad enough being a woman on a dating site as it is with all the smut, racist remarks I could do without.

 

08.04.2007, 18:59 quote

loubylou

i like your pic but i am put off by the religion side of things its maybe a bit presumtious of me i dont know maybe i assume too much

 

08.04.2007, 19:59 quote

Greystone
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By the way I think there are some asian singles dating sites too, exclusivly for asian people.

 

08.04.2007, 21:00 quote

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elitious wrote:
yea i have add other pic with colour, i don't know i just like black n white. Very Happy. but my question was is there an turn off if being asian


how on earth did you get the idea that being asian is the reason for no msgs?

 

08.04.2007, 21:19 quote

elitious
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Greystone wrote:
By the way I think there are some asian singles dating sites too, exclusivly for asian people.


lol

 

08.04.2007, 21:26 quote

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loubylou wrote:
i like your pic but i am put off by the religion side of things its maybe a bit presumtious of me i dont know maybe i assume too much


i believe my religion or my faith is completly for ownself n spirit.

 

08.04.2007, 21:29 quote

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KEVIN53846 wrote:
elitious wrote:
yea i have add other pic with colour, i don't know i just like black n white. Very Happy. but my question was is there an turn off if being asian


how on earth did you get the idea that being asian is the reason for no msgs?


can be not one complete underlined bolded reason, but can be one of the reasons. so imo it is better to ask all the pretty ladies out there.

 

08.04.2007, 22:26 quote

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elitious wrote:
KEVIN53846 wrote:
elitious wrote:
yea i have add other pic with colour, i don't know i just like black n white. Very Happy. but my question was is there an turn off if being asian


how on earth did you get the idea that being asian is the reason for no msgs?


can be not one complete underlined bolded reason, but can be one of the reasons. so imo it is better to ask all the pretty ladies out there.


Sorry Im not a pretty lady-well I wasnt last time I checked a year ago! Ha ha-sorry serious talk time. I have found if people have a problem with me being chinese (or anyone being of any ethnic origin) the problem is with them and not yourself. Prejudice, stereotyping or racism is a character flaw and its probably better not knowing people like that. F*ck em, if people have a problem with who you are they are not worth your time. However I dont think being asian is the root of your problem although through personal experience it might be a fair sized factor, HOWEVER its well known on dating sites there is alwayds more men than women, are you sending good emails worth replying to, good profile etc-basically are you someone they want to contact and want to know from reading your email and your profile? You have to give a good impression of yourself and stand out from the crowd postitively with a competitive edge I read somewhere by one of the dating "experts". When I was on another dating website it took a while for me to get it all just about right and finally I met someone (shame we split up however and I have to do it all again!) and she told me she liked how I stood out from the rest of the guys contacting her-basically standing out from the competition. So why dont you take a fresh look at your profile and how you do things and see what you can do to improve things a little? Its almost an unwritten rule you are not always going to get a reply to every email on dating websites-unless you know something we are not being told!!!!Despite the fact I say all this and my inbox is still a little thin!!!!

 

09.04.2007, 10:18 quote

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elitious wrote:
hi girls and guys, i was wondering, imo i m pretty decent person but still no replys Sad. is me being an asian treated as an turn off ? Confused

No that has nothing to do with the number of messages...

FWIW - I have been on this site for over a year and can count on one hand the number of proper replies I have had to the many messages I have sent so far.

 

09.04.2007, 12:07 quote

elitious
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any one else care to comment

 

09.04.2007, 12:08 quote

myriad
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I dont think being Asian is the issue, and despite liking your photo I would be more interested in a view which showed your eyes for a site like this.
What I have noticed though, which does make a huge difference in receiving messages, is to how often you come on line.
When you can be seen to be on-line, you'll have loads more people check out your profile and then if you have that something that stands out, then you'll probably get more messages too.
Might be worth looking at some other mens profiles, 'cos its surprising how many use similar words and phrases, so for me, I need to see something expressed in a different way as I like creative thinkers.

 

09.04.2007, 12:21 quote

elitious
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myriad wrote:
I dont think being Asian is the issue, and despite liking your photo I would be more interested in a view which showed your eyes for a site like this.
What I have noticed though, which does make a huge difference in receiving messages, is to how often you come on line.
When you can be seen to be on-line, you'll have loads more people check out your profile and then if you have that something that stands out, then you'll probably get more messages too.
Might be worth looking at some other mens profiles, 'cos its surprising how many use similar words and phrases, so for me, I need to see something expressed in a different way as I like creative thinkers.


thanks for your comments. i will try to put more stuff, and let people see my soul Smile

 

09.04.2007, 12:40 quote

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I don't think being Asian is a problem, your problem is your male. Considering there is about an 80% male to 20% female ratio on here, it'll take a while before you'll be noticed.

As for your picture, i know its intended to portray a meditative peaceful image, but when someone's head is down like the way it is in your picture the bodylanguage of it can sometimes suggest aggression. People read body language differently and i have to be honest with you mate in that aggression (not in a bad way, more like you can take on the world rather than looking for trouble) was the first impression i got.

 

09.04.2007, 19:36 quote

elitious
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ChiefOHara wrote:
I don't think being Asian is a problem, your problem is your male. Considering there is about an 80% male to 20% female ratio on here, it'll take a while before you'll be noticed.

As for your picture, i know its intended to portray a meditative peaceful image, but when someone's head is down like the way it is in your picture the bodylanguage of it can sometimes suggest aggression. People read body language differently and i have to be honest with you mate in that aggression (not in a bad way, more like you can take on the world rather than looking for trouble) was the first impression i got.


as far as i know pics are for looks, not body language. i can be wrong, just wanna clear that, as if we go by the intention in the pic, most of pics on this site will contradict with person intentions projected by profile.

 
 
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