I have no issues with dating people with kids either. I can understand guys who get cold feet at the idea, however that something that the bloke should think about before anyone gets hurt. I'm sure you'll meet someone soon, failing that feel free to give me a shout.

ill borow the kids if any1 wants to go on a date with some one
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To be honest if someone says they can't handle the baggage they aren't worth the time of day. I have two daughters aged 2 and 7 months. They come first above everything else. If you're going to date someone then they have to realise coming second is always the option - some people don't like or can't handle the thought that they are not number one in someone's life. They do not realise how much time is devoted to our little ones. Loving a partner is special but loving your kids is unconditional.

I would've thought the majority of guys would not see it as an issue, after all, we all have a past and previous relationships. Do they think kids grow on trees?

In this modern age it is not uncommon for women now a day's to have children and want to be dating as well if men can't accept this then their not worth dating in the first place how many of them has left a single mother behind to look after their kids

Well I'm killing a little time on a slow friday and happened across this discussion so I thought I'd make my own contribution.

For me if a woman has children or not is only indirectly a factor. What I mean is that her having children doesn't bother me but it does have some knock on effects. As someone posted earlier it does make it harder to be spontaneous, you have to think about two or more other people when making plans. That's not insurmountable but it does mean you end up having a different type of relationship.

For me the bigger consideration is the future. I'd like to have children of my own. If the woman concerned has children and as a result doesn't want any more then it's a definate deal breaker. Of course any guy should be honest about something like that up front. I don't really think that I could get nine months down the track and suddenly discover it's not for me. Other factors might crop up after that length of time, but then it is again about being honest and stating what those reasons are rather than using a child as the pretext.

Well those are my thoughts for what they are worth.

I don't think it should be a problem you having a child. But if it is you could always form a relarionship with a blind man, and not tell him you have a child. If he heard your child and asked who that is you could tell him it's just the television or something. If he happens to trip over your kids toy that have been left lying around you could just tell him you had a bag full of kids toys at yours that you were looking after for a friend for an upcomming charity jumble sale. Im not sure if I have all the angles covered there but hope that helps anyway.