I'm about to make a very controversial statement which is going to promote anger and hostility from a huge number of people but I really don't care anymore!

Women are just RUDE!!! Yes, I know that's a generalisation and all but hell people, it's true! Every now and then I will take the time to drop someone a message because either:
a) I think they are cute and would like to chat to them or
b) I think they sound interesting and might be a nice person to be friends with.

The latter is not even necessarily good looking!

Now, what really gets to me is when you don't even get so much as a "Hi, look I'm really sorry but I've got a lot of friends on here already and really, as much as I'd like to find out a little bit about you, I don't really have enough hours in the day to add another person". What in actual fact happens is your message is immediately deleted.

Please understand me when I say this, I'm not some sort of f-ing wierdo pervert who is trying to get you into bed. I'm a normal guy, with a good job, my own house and lots of very friends. So stop being so damn rude! If I said hi to you on the street, would you delete me?! No!

I might be incesently decent but if someone takes the time to say hello to me, I will ALWAYS, no matter who they are, say hello back. They could be a hippo-croca-pig but I will always have the grace and decency to say "Hi".

Plus, by the way, even if I was cracking on to you, I'm not a bad looking guy, I'm funny as f*&k and I can hold a crowd much better than you will ever be able to! I'm not on here because I can't meet women. I'm on here because I thought it might be an interesting supplementary source of friendship and possibly romance. So stop being so far stuffed up your own back side and just say hello!

Phew, my rant is over and I feel much better. This is, btw, the first time I've ever used this forum. I promise to be happier next time!

Take it easy guys and girls

Wowww...you was right about a controversial statement lol..

But easy tiger..your right it's a GENERALISATION, but your obviously messaging the wrong women lol..I try to respond to most messages I receive..

But there's no rules to say anyone and everyone should respond to messages sent..that does not mean they are necessarily rude..there could be a 101 reasons why they choose not to respond..

I for one, will not reply to messages sent from those profiles without a picture, and that's not because I am shallow in any way!!

So HELLLLLLLOOOOOOO HELLLLLOOOOOOOOO HELLLLLOOOOOOOO

I think your profile pictures may not be helping either, I see you have a picture with you and your friend. Even though you might think its good, the ladies may assume that is an ex or some thing. From what I have found most people don't like profile pictures with some one else in them.

I would try getting some pictures of just you...
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It's always times like these,
When I think of you And I wonder,
If you ever think of me?

I mainly reply to anyone who messages me, but sometimes there have been technical problems and it has taken days before I can get a message sent off, if at all. I even got a another person involved so as not to miss my opportunity with one guy, and got them to share my details with them just because I couldn't do it myself!
Also, I may not reply if someone just says "Hi" or some other greeting, and when I visit their profile it's virtually blank or has no photo.......
I like 'open minded people' and those that are interesting, so if someone is serious about 'hooking up' for friendship or other , I think they should put some effort into their presentation and first message.

Would love to know what some of your opening messages said.

I started a thread a while back (rocketgirl) called Time Versus Manners (I think) which more or less said what you are saying - but, I think the main thing I will say to you here is this: The Virtual World is even more tough and shallow than the Real World, you gotta toughen your skin and to be honest throwing a toddler tizzy isnt going to help either.
If someone wants to ignore you on here, big deal. That's just the way it is sometimes.
Look at it this way - if a woman hasn't got the 'manners' that you require to respond to your message just to say Hi, then she ain't likely gonna be your cup of char in the long run, eh?
Don't sweat the small stuff, keep messaging them what catch yer eye, and eventually you'll get a reply I am sure. Good luck!

I'm sorry. I really shouldn't post on this subject again, but this is PLAIN SILLY. What the hell? If someone you don't like or don't think you'd like says hi to you on the street you CAN ignore them. Can't delete them (though you probably do right after you pass them, unless they grab you and make it even more real), but surely forget them in a second.

I never got this "manners" thing which should make you answer a message. It's not like you're applyin' for a job for a company, or for marriage with a member of the royal family. It's much more superficial here, as RocketGirl says it. If you say hi to someone on the street and they don't like you, they simply ignore you. It's not like they'll think for a second: Wait... What if this guy is really a great guy, though he doesn't seem to be my type... I should talk to him and find out more. The world moves far too fast for this. Besides... It seems to me like you have a huge ego... Not meaning to offend you, I'm sure you're a great guy, but messages like this just get on my nerves. If ye'r so good and the world should REALLY notice you, then why aren't you on the news or smth?
As for the women not answering... Why don't people answer phone calls? Why do people sometimes not answer their doorbell? Maybe because they've got somethin' else better to do? You seem to care far too much, for someone who just wants some new friends. If someone doesn't answer, they're probably not good enough to be your friends anyway so what do you care?

I'm endin' this here as my old age could make me lose track of my thoughts again. Sorry.
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I'm afraid Bliss is right - no one *has to* do anything just cuz someone else thinks that they should. When I first wrote a thread about 'manners' etc. I was still very new to this online contact stuff and didnt realise that it just doesnt work on here the way it does in my own little world.
Sure, I personally always, always reply to anyone and everyone (and say hi back to total strangers in the street) unless they are particularly rude.....just the other day someone Pm-ed me just said "Can we chat please?" - me being me, wrote back yes ok what about........never to hear another peep from him!? I guess by the time I replied he'd either got bored, or found someone else a faster typer to chat with?
Does that make him rude?
Does it make ALL MEN rude?
No, of course not.
It was the guy's perogative not to bother with me anymore....summat you need to wise up to PDQ on here before your ego is permanently damaged.

doesnt even warrant a thought out reply, just sounds like somebody is spitting their dummy because they arnt getting responses, says he dont need to be here and then gets out of his pram because people havent replied to him...

Baptism by fire!!

Well heck, I'm a woman and you started off by accusing ME (along with all my global sisters) of being rude - and you've never even messaged me, so you don't know if I would answer or not - so exactly how "welcoming" did you expect me to be????

PS Hi and welcome to the forums!!