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28.03.2009, 12:48 quote

fierybloke
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Couldnt you stretch that just a wee bit further... Very Happy
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28.03.2009, 13:18 quote

phoeniix

willempje wrote:
cutecuddlesni wrote:
fierybloke wrote:
Im liking all this 'age doesnt matter stuff', more, more!
Smile


Haha Age doesn't matter! But why is it that it's more acceptable for younger girls to date older guys and not the other way around?! What if I want some 18 year old boy candy!!?? (Not that I do... but hypothetically saying)


I love your remark !
I absolutely agree with that !
It should be just as acceptable !
Just as it should be acceptable a 100% that the girl is taller than the boy,
or that the girl has more muscle than the boy.
There we got three of the most strong oldfashioned taboos about man-woman relationships together.




First thing - take the person for who they are - and not their age. (:

Also it is acceptable to be taller than the guy, more muscley etc.. it's just opinional isn't it.. some guys prefer taller women, some don't.. etc. I'm fairly traditional in the way that I prefer my man to be taller than me, musclier than me etc but that's just a preferance isn't it (:

 

28.03.2009, 17:12 quote

jeggae
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leya wrote:
I don't mind older men about a 8-10 year gap is ok for me, but younger i'd say no


I could be ten years older then you if you wish

 

28.03.2009, 17:28 quote

edd1e24

Yeh definately age is no barrier when love or lust is involved in my case and should't be in others too. I think everybody has a right to opinion but don't let age wreck the possible love of your life Embarassed
I know people who have been married 25 or so years and the woman was 24 and the man was 46 when the marriage took place . Smile lucky him I say

 

28.03.2009, 17:52 quote

sc0ttie

sc0ttie wrote:
curvycloxx wrote:
Well i'm 18 and suposed to be meeting up with a guy thats 33 years old.

We hit it off so good on the phone and i know it may be different in reality.. but do you think the age gap will get in the way? Confused


I don't think it would in some cases age difference can be quite complimentary for the two people involved.


and also quite detrimental. perhaps one who dates a woman or man 25 years younger than himself is as immature as them? or is it really that they are as mature as them? That would be found out once dating commences I guess. but for a 50 year old dating an 18 year old there is a huge difference in experience and capacity for emotional understanding, I would have thought so anyway?

 

28.03.2009, 17:53 quote

leya
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fierybloke wrote:
Couldnt you stretch that just a wee bit further... Very Happy



Depends on the guy........xx

 

28.03.2009, 18:10 quote

cmiso

sc0ttie wrote:
sc0ttie wrote:
curvycloxx wrote:
Well i'm 18 and suposed to be meeting up with a guy thats 33 years old.

We hit it off so good on the phone and i know it may be different in reality.. but do you think the age gap will get in the way? Confused


I don't think it would in some cases age difference can be quite complimentary for the two people involved.


and also quite detrimental. perhaps one who dates a woman or man 25 years younger than himself is as immature as them? or is it really that they are as mature as them? That would be found out once dating commences I guess. but for a 50 year old dating an 18 year old there is a huge difference in experience and capacity for emotional understanding, I would have thought so anyway?


Are you arguing with yourself? Both points pretty valid of course.

Anyway as it's about six months since curvycloxx started this thread and she's not commented here since I wonder how it did go if/when they met.

 

28.03.2009, 19:43 quote

justmejim70

if i remember right she cancelled and didnt go lol

 

29.03.2009, 00:19 quote

sc0ttie

CMISO wrote:
sc0ttie wrote:
sc0ttie wrote:
curvycloxx wrote:
Well i'm 18 and suposed to be meeting up with a guy thats 33 years old.

We hit it off so good on the phone and i know it may be different in reality.. but do you think the age gap will get in the way? Confused


I don't think it would in some cases age difference can be quite complimentary for the two people involved.


and also quite detrimental. perhaps one who dates a woman or man 25 years younger than himself is as immature as them? or is it really that they are as mature as them? That would be found out once dating commences I guess. but for a 50 year old dating an 18 year old there is a huge difference in experience and capacity for emotional understanding, I would have thought so anyway?


Are you arguing with yourself? Both points pretty valid of course.


Yeah I do that a lot

 

29.03.2009, 01:37 quote

fierybloke
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leya wrote:
fierybloke wrote:
Couldnt you stretch that just a wee bit further... Very Happy



Depends on the guy........xx


In which case.. need you to stretch... Smile
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30.03.2009, 19:41 quote

jonniebgood
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.. I feel lucky to have known women younger than me.. I have a fantastic flirty and fun friendship with someone 14 years younger.. I don't think either of us feels the age difference..

 

23.05.2009, 17:49 quote

stevie_velvet
Joined: 13 Dec 2003 Posts: 96 Location: United Kingdom, England, London
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Age is immaterial with the right connection

But you have to be old enough, to be wise enough to know

~sc~

 

27.09.2009, 18:59 quote

ryanjamesuk
Joined: 26 Sep 2009 Posts: 1 Location: United Kingdom, England, Greater Manchester
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I would hope not. I'm 38 but look younger and certainly feel younger. I'd love a gorgeous girlfriend like you.

 

28.09.2009, 02:58 quote

tryst46

Physical age is immaterial, it's the mental and emotional age that's more important. Someone who is mentally and/or emotionally immature is not nearly as much of an attraction.

As for women with younger men, I don't know where anyone gets the idea of taboos, it's quite often done. You only need to look at some of the big stars like Cher to see that younger men are often sought after, although most of their partners are more after the luxurious lifestyle than the woman, the same goes for big male stars and their much younger partners.

When it comes to the average people, men more often look for younger women and women more often look for someone their own age. There are a few women who go for younger men but younger men less often go for older women.

There are an increasing number of younger women looking for older men. Not sure why this is, maybe stability and attitude since more mature men tend to mellow out and become less aggressive and less flighty. Women mellow out at a much younger age from my observations and often, by the time they hit their mid 20's, they are close to the stability and maturity of a man in his mid 30's. Therefore, having over a 10 year gap is probably more suitable than someone close to your own age if you are younger. By the time a woman reaches her late 20's it makes no difference since men or 35 or more have probably mellowed out as much as they are going to.

I am now close to 50 and have dated a 25 year old for 6 months and only pressure on her from her family killed it off. I see no problem with it, nor would I see a problem if the ages were reversed. Anyone who worries about what others think is probably too self conscious to attract many stable types anyway. To hell with what other may think, it's your life to live as you choose and not as others dictate.

 

28.09.2009, 11:43 quote

eccles
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In the past i have dated 3 different ladies with age differences from 10 to 15 years! I found that i never had any real problems apart from being accused of being a pervert! it's odd but i've never heard of a woman with a younger partner being called a perve! My neighbour is 50 his partner is 25 they have been together for 6 years! No problems so why the fuss if a connection is there and mutual interests then age should effectively be immaterial! If pressure is brought on you due to disapproval the option is yours, cave in and split or weather the storm! Some cultures actually foster the idea of older guys and younger women!
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