I have just had tragic news about an old friend of mine. It was given to me by his brother who rang me crying his eyes out from the hospital. This old friend of mine had been with his girlfriend for ages, about six or seven years if memory serves and they seemed to be a good couple. About six months ago this friend started suffering from depression following the death of both his parents in a car crash. He lost all drive or motivation, the only thing that kept him from losing it was his girlfriend. You would think that regardless of how much she wanted to leave him, when he was in that state she would dump him gently...right??? Wrong, three days ago she turns up at his flat with her "new man" tells him she has been shagging him for weeks and throws a necklace he bought her in his face then walks off.
The next day his brother gets a phone call from hospital telling him that he has been taken to hospital after an OD, he died this morning.
The first call my friend made was to his ex informing her f the bad news, her reply "So what am I supposed to do about it?"

All those years together and he tops himself because of her and all she can say is basically "So what???"
If he were an asshole I would kinda understand, but he was the nicest bloke you could meet and treated his "ex" with respect.

I don't understand how someone can be so cold and I can't for the life of me think of what I am supposed to do. I'm worried about my friend cos he has now lost his entire family in less than a year, this girl obviously doesn't give a toss what happens and to be honest I can't help but point the finger at her for his death.

Sorry if this is a bit muddled cos I'm not able to think straight at the mo, sorry. I would rather ask a group of strangers this question, what am I supposed to do???

Oh dear, what terrible news I'm very sorry for your loss
Its sounds like a terribly unhappy situation
Living with somone with sevre depression is hard work, but that in no way excuses her behaviour.... in a truly honest an beautiful world everyone would be treated with kindness and respect...its a shame things rarely work like that...

What can your do?

Now is not the time for issuing blame, it really doesn't help, take it from me i know

Be there for your friend

He'll need you now

I'm here if u wanna chat

Hugz xx

I don't know what to say bud apart from I'm sorry

I just hope that the scheming bitch has a shit life for the rest of her life.

[quote="Hugglies"]Oh dear, what terrible news I'm very sorry for your loss
Its sounds like a terribly unhappy situation
Living with somone with sevre depression is hard work, but that in no way excuses her behaviour.... in a truly honest an beautiful world everyone would be treated with kindness and respect...its a shame things rarely work like that...

What can your do?

Now is not the time for issuing blame, it really doesn't help, take it from me i know

Be there for your friend

He'll need you now

I'm here if u wanna chat

Hugz xx[/quote

I can only reiterate what Hugz has said. Jeez, Hungry, don't really know what to say but I think I speak for all on the forum here when I say we're here for you.

Sorry to hear about that.
My experience of people with deep depression is sometimes they do not want to live anymore and only want one end, and it can be hard to reason with them about it. There seems to be something in their head telling them to do it.

Obviously we're only getting one side of the story maybe second hand, but if the girlfriend acted like that, it wasn't very nice, and in better circumstances he would have been better without her. But in my experience sometimes people with depression can kind of make these events happen, so they can end it all. I'm not saying your mate did this, but we're not getting the full story and do not know what went on behind closed doors. Possibly the girlfriend leaving was the trigger but not the reason for his tragic death, sometimes its want they want. I know that the NHS is not always very good at identifying people with deep depression and helping them.

As Hugz said now is not the time to look for someone to blame, because depending on how bad the depression was, obviously it must have been bad, maybe there wasn't a lot anyone could have done about it unfortunately. You cant watch people 24 hours a day.

I'm sorry about your sad news.

Well I'm back and I'm more...erm, level headed . Thanks for taking the time to read my sad little tale, my head was spinning with rage and upset when I wrote it so sorry if it didn't make sense.
Well another good fella has gone to meet the maker, any again thanks for the words of wisedom and support and I'll talk to you all soon

All I can say is take it easy and ours' is not to reason why...

F*** up her car.

Don't get caught doing it, and make it real nasty. Slash her tyres, they're expensive to replace. Key the or put Paint stripper on the paintwork.

The usual drill.

It won't change anything, but it'll make you feel better.

OMG...im so sorry to hear about this sad news...unfortunately there are alot of cold feeling people out there..i know a friend of mine was engaged to a girl and were to be married within 6 mo..he got in a terrible accident and left him looking like freddy krueger and yes she left him knowing he could have plastic surgery and things would be better.....i was 15 wheni i was put in a new foster home,,my mother died 3 wks later, i called my dad and explained...his comment was "oh what am i supposed to do about it" i said what about me,,he said "what do u want me to do" i told him to f off and die

thanks cheeky hun,,and i did not mean to take away from the original post..just trying to prove how fu....cking cold people can be, whether it be friends, family or lovers....my prayers are with anyone that has to be hurt by someone like that

i know what your saying Faith .. i havent been on much this week my gran died monday funeral was today it was terrible ... just been chatting with kev didnt like to broadcast it on the forums