I know I'm not as pure as the driven snow, but I've noticed a recent trend where peeps dont always respect others opinions and it gets a bit like the school playground's Squabble Corner. Its actually depressed me quite a bit cuz there seem to be only 2 choices here lately, Be Silly or Have A Pissing Contest.

I haven't seen any 3rd grade playground ethics as of late but I've only been here since tonight. Quite frankly I like it here you all seem nice enough. Haven't been told to marry off. And take that as a insult I'll have you know.

pfftt.....

Perhaps some opinions aren`t worth respecting, Alice. If you wish to help to give free airtime to a racist and fascist just because you fancy a nice debate, then go right ahead. I`m not that self-absorbed.

Tell me, if somebody started a thread suggesting that paedophilia should be legalised, would that be OK as long as we `debated` it in a calm and logical manner?

I've refrained from posting up to now to see what everyone else has put and if you look at it from page one to here, most of the threads say pretty much the same thing..

it's not like it used to be.

Now i've only been on here for around 6 weeks or something, but in the last 2 weeks i've noticed a complete change in the general 'atmosphere' on here, although i can't pinpoint how or why it changed, it's definately happened.

Differences of opinion however, will have been here from day one - the only difference is, how people react to them. There seems to have also been alot of people lately upping sticks and leaving, which i think is a real shame as their input on a thread such as this could prove to be very usefull as to finding out what's actually going on and how it can be dealt with.

I'm not sure that i fully understand why people have made comments on 'flirting' on here, the website is called flirtbox.. BUT - perhaps there could be a specific area made purely for the flirting to happen, that way, those that don't want to continuously read it don't have to and it would also cut down on the other threads getting spammed.

Just another suggestion... but an area specific to debates could well come in handy - i like debates *SOMETIMES*. They help you get to know people, how they react to things, what they believe in or if they are just happy to follow the most popular side of the arguement.

i shall more than likely add further to this post later on once i've been for my interview.. but as usual, everything i've said is JUST MY OPINION, no offense is meant by it - it's just an observation that i felt relevant to this topic..
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It seems to me that there are largely 3 groups of people on here.

1. People that like joking around
2. People here for the more serious discussion
3. People that want both

Obviously there will be people that wants shades of each and to different degrees.

The thing that strikes me as a newcomer is the large amount of sections. It is no wonder that things end up in the wrong bit and discussions spill into other areas half way through. Half the time I don't know which section I'm in - but that might just be me

As someone that does web development and has created numerous forums my advice would be to reduce the number of sections and clearly mark what goes. A sticky in each section will not be read by most! Also many sections go days, weeks or months without a posting - just merge them. Not only does this mean you have a busier section for similar topics but it makes it easier for those that don't want to read my inane drivel to keep clear.

You should be able to split the forum into say 4 or 5 sections:

1. Fun and games, gossip, jokes and general sillyness
2. Dating, flirting, love
3. News, serious discussion
4. Help, suggestions, advice etc

Easier to navigate, easier to moderate and easier to understand. I've done that off the top of my head and it needs a bit more thought!

People also have to understand that forums go through cycles. Like life they have their ups and downs and you have to ride through it. You get what you put in.

I administrate a few forums as I said and I know what a thankless task it is. Make it easier on yourselves and simplify the place.

Just my thoughts anyway

simplifying the forum is a good idea, let's wait and see what master cheif has done with the redesign that is due to be launched at the weekend iirc ?

Meg'z, i'm a bit like that on my forum, i'm happy to let certain things slide as long as people are cheery - but as soon as the proverbial hits the fan, i wise up and get serious, which i'm sure you would do if the need arises.
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right we should get this forum sorted.. could people pm me some ideas for what they like/want, doesnt matter if you think its a silly idea, it could work
and i will have a chat with toby


this forum has been lacking for a long time and we have some great people on here and this place could be something special