I got a question...

I'm currently in a process of reshaping a house and making it a lovely home... And I feel somewhat stressed from several reasons, one being that I don't know who'll get to see and appreciate what I've done.

Thing is... I've been feeling like this before... I mean... If there aren't enough important people there to appreciate what you've done, would you be ok with doing it just to please yourself?

I've been visiting a friend of mine who's got a lovely home, absolutely stunning. There are three people living in that house, but I don't think many other people enter that gorgeous house...

Thing is, the chick said she's done it for her own pleasure, so I suppose that's possible, but could it really be enough? Not for me I suppose.

I used to have the same problem with dressing up and nobody admiring my work of art. PMSL

So I'm askin' y'all... Could you feel completely content if you've done something brilliant and nobody's there to see? Are you somebody if nobody loves you?
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I NEVER EVER do anything to please someone else, unless it pleases *ME* to do so.
I can be altruistic only if I choose to be.
I live alone, no one rarely visits.
But thats not an excuse to live in a dump.
I sometimes dress nice and wear makeup and all that malarkey and stay at home alone and feel good about myself.
If you dont love yourself, surely no one can love you?
It all starts with self.
Make your home how *you* want it.
If anyone visits and admires it, thats an unnecessary but welcome bonus.

of course your somebody if nobody loves you ........... if that was the case then a lot of the population would be attention seeking little witches .......... but seriously i am proud of what i achieve, yes of course it is nice to be recognised for your efforts but not a neccesaity ..... a

Depends on what I've done, I think we all do a lot of brilliant things in our lives that aren't entirely obvious to any but ourselves. Doing some thing brilliant is just great but is your sole purpose for doing it because you want the credit and attention? Or are you doing it because it interests you and you want to better yourself?

Just because nobody loves you (though there is always some one that does) you can still be someone, through what you output via your work, hobbies etc The way you conduct yourself as person I believe makes you someone…

PS: I will come see what you have done!

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I would consider making a house beautiful, and just right for you, a very functional and rewarding thing. You know what you want to have to hand, what you want to see and what inspires you.

Living in place you are miserable about will make you miserable, it can be as simple as that. Having somewhere that will lift your spirits could be a very valuable asset.

Maybe you should include some features for later expansion, such an empty bookshelf (for a partner who will like books).

You can't try too hard to find love but while you are waiting, setting your own house in order is always a good thing (both literally and metaphorically) ...

I feel this is where I should be channelling Gok and saying "you go girl!" or some other motivational phrase.

That is not what I meant. It's just like sex. It's not the same thing if you do it on your own, y'all dig?

Also regarding the partner and bla bla... The other reason I'm not feeling good about it is because I'd rather it was in the UK and not here. It's weird to have your heart thousands of miles away from your home (not your house, your home), because your home is supposed to be where your heart is.

This is lame. Yet gorgeous. Yet lame.
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well, ...i farted and burped simultaneously last night and was quite disappointed no one was there to witness it.

It might have something to do with not having a significant other to share all this beauty with. SO maybe it's not an attention seeking thing after all... Maybe it's the desire to share...

LOL
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As being away from the UK, I know what that can be like because I worked for two years in Paris on assignment for an American corporation. I got seriously home-sick and even searched the place for the most authentic English-style Indian restaurant!

Sharing your home is the big one and should not be done lightly.

An elderly friend of mine allowed a younger woman into his home and the place was systematically looted in stages while she stayed there. It wrecked his confidence and his finances.

The sad fact is that moping over the absence of a relationship is a sure fire way to make sure you don't end up in one.

So decorate that house and be proud of it!

Let's face it: it's entirely possiblee to be proud of something without anyone else admiring it. However, if someone does admire it you always get a little buzz, even if its deep down and you try to hide it. We are social animals, so any form of social acceptance is a positive experience.

I think we all like to have an audience whether it be large or small when we achieve something.take Ewan Mcgregor for an example.he could quite easily tour africa on his bike on his own but if it aint captured on camera its alomost as if it hasnt happned for him.

How's dis:

"To get the full value of joy you must have someone to divide it with."

I didn't say it, Mark Twain did.
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