i know many women who have kids with ex's, but who dont want nor desire contact, and the ass hole ex has been cut dead completely. works very well for the women, and for their kids. being a real father or mother is a little more than being an irresponsible and binned sperm donor/hobby-daddy, or drunkie-dancie mummy on weekends. it's a full-time action, full-time sacrifice and investment, not a part-time right. so my view is, if the relationship doesnt work, amputate the Ex at all costs, move to a country where execution's legal, and replace the male or female Ex completely with someone new and refreshing. Erase the old sweaty-sock smell from your life completely - and, if you don't have kids together, then my god...!? or, forever be labelled a weakling cry-in-your-beer drizzler, who just can't move on and start over again. boo hoo, ohhh, i just can't forget you, ohhhh.... please come back, or can't we just be friends?!!!!!!!!! not a chance!!!! execute... ... kill the heretic!!!!

Rupture definitely is the operative word here.......! Luckily, there are ball-and-socket hernia trusses available in the back of the Exchange & Mart for ruptures. And adverts for leather flying helmets too...

I don't have a problem being on friendly terms with my ex...... but I was amused, like my kids now well into their 20s that he took us all to see Avatar last Christmas.

If you have kids then I think it's important not to use them in a 'battleground' so you DO have to be civil however you feel about the break-up.

I do think it's sad that when you explain to children that their dad still loves them and it's just their mum he's fallen out of love with.... and THEN he's too wrapped up in his new life to demonstrate that love he says he has for them....... My kids were 9 and 13 when their dad left and they both felt like he only visited out of 'duty' rather than 'love'.
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Could we stay friends with an axe as an alternative... even give it a name, like Max...?

I'm still friends with both my ex's though the most recent one is more awkward, i guess the wound is still fresh for both of us but even still. I will always be here for him and i believe vice versa too...

My other ex well we get on great... from a distance lol

It depends - it's different for different situations and just how the individual deals with it - it can be done...sometimes.

I saw my ex this weekend for the first time in just over four years. We got along great all weekend, had many laughs and enjoyed each others company. She even told me she'd missed me, which was nice.
I really think it all depends on the people involved, it's never a black and white situation.
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