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20.01.2007, 22:00 quote

Anonymous

KEVIN53846 wrote:
xhiddenxlustx wrote:
I'd be ok about it if my boyfriend 'actively' flirted with other girls.

Flirting is harmless. So is looking.

As long as you don't touch.


so what about going as far as web camming? thats not touching..


This has always been my motto...ask yourself...'Would you do it (flirting, camming etc) in front of your partner?' If the answer is no...then it is crossing the line.
Very Happy

 
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20.01.2007, 22:04 quote

Anonymous

KEVIN53846 wrote:
xhiddenxlustx wrote:
KEVIN53846 wrote:
see...personally, i would say i couldnt do it.. out of respect to the other person..

cannot see the point of encouraging others to flirt with you if you have a partner..i know people can throw around some flirtatious banter at times, and thats fine...


How do you encourage somebody to flirt with you?

They either want to flirt with you, or they don't.


encouraging them would be like making sure it continues over a period of time...feeding of what they say and responding in such a way as to get more comments of them....which i would say, would lead to it getting a bit deeper than just the odd flirtacious comment..

not if one is aware of the other's bf or gf and they are both clearly just having fun

 
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20.01.2007, 22:05 quote

Anonymous

xhiddenxlustx wrote:
KEVIN53846 wrote:
encouraging them would be like making sure it continues over a period of time...feeding of what they say and responding in such a way as to get more comments of them....which i would say, would lead to it getting a bit deeper than just the odd flirtacious comment..


Hm..

Still don't see anything wrong with it.

Getting deeper? Confused


ok..how about this...you log on here say and see that your partner has been flirting back and forth for 4 or 5 pages with someone else..now obviously they have encouraged them to get to 4 or 5 pages, and by now comments are not ' i like your pic, you have a lovely smile', type of things...

wouldnt you be pissed off at all? you think this is ok?

see..i would be peeved myself, it would seem to me that there is no respect going on, but i want other peoples opinons on this..

 
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20.01.2007, 22:08 quote

Anonymous

KEVIN53846 wrote:
xhiddenxlustx wrote:
KEVIN53846 wrote:
encouraging them would be like making sure it continues over a period of time...feeding of what they say and responding in such a way as to get more comments of them....which i would say, would lead to it getting a bit deeper than just the odd flirtacious comment..


Hm..

Still don't see anything wrong with it.

Getting deeper? Confused


ok..how about this...you log on here say and see that your partner has been flirting back and forth for 4 or 5 pages with someone else..now obviously they have encouraged them to get to 4 or 5 pages, and by now comments are not ' i like your pic, you have a lovely smile', type of things...

wouldnt you be pissed off at all? you think this is ok?

see..i would be peeved myself, it would seem to me that there is no respect going on, but i want other peoples opinons on this..

again...if both are CLEARLY just having fun,no harm no foul. relationships do require trust

 
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20.01.2007, 22:10 quote

Anonymous

so on that note karen if you were seeing a guy and he was asking a lovely lass off the site to web cam with him ... that'd be alright ?? Confused Confused

 
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20.01.2007, 22:11 quote

Anonymous

cheekyeyes wrote:
so on that note karen if you were seeing a guy and he was asking a lovely lass off the site to web cam with him ... that'd be alright ?? Confused Confused

depends on what they were going to do. Confused

 
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20.01.2007, 22:12 quote

Anonymous

angelsarah wrote:
KEVIN53846 wrote:
xhiddenxlustx wrote:
KEVIN53846 wrote:
encouraging them would be like making sure it continues over a period of time...feeding of what they say and responding in such a way as to get more comments of them....which i would say, would lead to it getting a bit deeper than just the odd flirtacious comment..


Hm..

Still don't see anything wrong with it.

Getting deeper? Confused


ok..how about this...you log on here say and see that your partner has been flirting back and forth for 4 or 5 pages with someone else..now obviously they have encouraged them to get to 4 or 5 pages, and by now comments are not ' i like your pic, you have a lovely smile', type of things...

wouldnt you be pissed off at all? you think this is ok?

see..i would be peeved myself, it would seem to me that there is no respect going on, but i want other peoples opinons on this..

again...if both are CLEARLY just having fun,no harm no foul. relationships do require trust


What if it wasn’t on the internet and your boyfriend was chatting up a woman or being chatted up, ..say in a pub somewhere, ..would that not make you angry? Is there really a difference because its online?

 
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20.01.2007, 22:12 quote

Anonymous

KEVIN53846 wrote:
xhiddenxlustx wrote:
KEVIN53846 wrote:
encouraging them would be like making sure it continues over a period of time...feeding of what they say and responding in such a way as to get more comments of them....which i would say, would lead to it getting a bit deeper than just the odd flirtacious comment..


Hm..

Still don't see anything wrong with it.

Getting deeper? Confused


ok..how about this...you log on here say and see that your partner has been flirting back and forth for 4 or 5 pages with someone else..now obviously they have encouraged them to get to 4 or 5 pages, and by now comments are not ' i like your pic, you have a lovely smile', type of things...

wouldnt you be pissed off at all? you think this is ok?

see..i would be peeved myself, it would seem to me that there is no respect going on, but i want other peoples opinons on this..


I think this question will get very 'individual' responses....it is important to clarify these issues as a couple...and sort out relationship expectations etc..

 
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20.01.2007, 22:13 quote

Anonymous

angelsarah wrote:
cheekyeyes wrote:
so on that note karen if you were seeing a guy and he was asking a lovely lass off the site to web cam with him ... that'd be alright ?? Confused Confused

depends on what they were going to do. Confused


well i would suspect...carry on flirting...

 
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20.01.2007, 22:14 quote

Anonymous

brainsplusbeauty wrote:
KEVIN53846 wrote:
xhiddenxlustx wrote:
I'd be ok about it if my boyfriend 'actively' flirted with other girls.

Flirting is harmless. So is looking.

As long as you don't touch.


so what about going as far as web camming? thats not touching..


This has always been my motto...ask yourself...'Would you do it (flirting, camming etc) in front of your partner?' If the answer is no...then it is crossing the line.
Very Happy


You are probably right, but it depends on whether it is a strong relationship, and whether you can trust the other person. I have known people who flirt in front of their partners, who don't always like it but put up with it. Some people are natural flirts.
I'm not a flirt at all, probably shows. So I wouldn't overly flirt if I had a partner.

 
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20.01.2007, 22:14 quote

Anonymous

Leglover227 wrote:
angelsarah wrote:
KEVIN53846 wrote:
xhiddenxlustx wrote:
KEVIN53846 wrote:
encouraging them would be like making sure it continues over a period of time...feeding of what they say and responding in such a way as to get more comments of them....which i would say, would lead to it getting a bit deeper than just the odd flirtacious comment..


Hm..

Still don't see anything wrong with it.

Getting deeper? Confused


ok..how about this...you log on here say and see that your partner has been flirting back and forth for 4 or 5 pages with someone else..now obviously they have encouraged them to get to 4 or 5 pages, and by now comments are not ' i like your pic, you have a lovely smile', type of things...

wouldnt you be pissed off at all? you think this is ok?

see..i would be peeved myself, it would seem to me that there is no respect going on, but i want other peoples opinons on this..

again...if both are CLEARLY just having fun,no harm no foul. relationships do require trust


What if it wasn’t on the internet and your boyfriend was chatting up a woman or being chatted up, ..say in a pub somewhere, ..would that not make you angry? Is there really a difference because its online?

there is a difference. if it were online there wouldn't necessarily be intent. we all do it all the time here...doesn't necessarily mean that person is getting ready to cheat

 
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20.01.2007, 22:19 quote

Anonymous

brainsplusbeauty wrote:
KEVIN53846 wrote:
xhiddenxlustx wrote:
KEVIN53846 wrote:
encouraging them would be like making sure it continues over a period of time...feeding of what they say and responding in such a way as to get more comments of them....which i would say, would lead to it getting a bit deeper than just the odd flirtacious comment..


Hm..

Still don't see anything wrong with it.

Getting deeper? Confused


ok..how about this...you log on here say and see that your partner has been flirting back and forth for 4 or 5 pages with someone else..now obviously they have encouraged them to get to 4 or 5 pages, and by now comments are not ' i like your pic, you have a lovely smile', type of things...

wouldnt you be pissed off at all? you think this is ok?

see..i would be peeved myself, it would seem to me that there is no respect going on, but i want other peoples opinons on this..


I think this question will get very 'individual' responses....it is important to clarify these issues as a couple...and sort out relationship expectations etc..


this is true...and this is why i want others opinons on this..i know for some this will be fine, just want to understand why though.. Very Happy

 
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20.01.2007, 22:22 quote

loubylou

i think flirting on or offline creates mistrust regardless of intent t take it further or not

 
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20.01.2007, 22:24 quote

Anonymous

angelsarah wrote:
Leglover227 wrote:
angelsarah wrote:
KEVIN53846 wrote:
xhiddenxlustx wrote:
KEVIN53846 wrote:
encouraging them would be like making sure it continues over a period of time...feeding of what they say and responding in such a way as to get more comments of them....which i would say, would lead to it getting a bit deeper than just the odd flirtacious comment..


Hm..

Still don't see anything wrong with it.

Getting deeper? Confused


ok..how about this...you log on here say and see that your partner has been flirting back and forth for 4 or 5 pages with someone else..now obviously they have encouraged them to get to 4 or 5 pages, and by now comments are not ' i like your pic, you have a lovely smile', type of things...

wouldnt you be pissed off at all? you think this is ok?

see..i would be peeved myself, it would seem to me that there is no respect going on, but i want other peoples opinons on this..

again...if both are CLEARLY just having fun,no harm no foul. relationships do require trust


What if it wasn’t on the internet and your boyfriend was chatting up a woman or being chatted up, ..say in a pub somewhere, ..would that not make you angry? Is there really a difference because its online?

there is a difference. if it were online there wouldn't necessarily be intent. we all do it all the time here...doesn't necessarily mean that person is getting ready to cheat


dont think just because its online its more ok to do it...and as for we all do it on here...not true...since meeting claudia, i have never flirted with someone for 4,5 or 6 pages with someone...the odd bit of banter, yes..but out of respect and because its just not 'me' to do this i would never actively encourage it..
but i do understand that others might....it just seems weird to me..

 
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20.01.2007, 22:29 quote

Anonymous

KEVIN53846 wrote:
angelsarah wrote:
Leglover227 wrote:
angelsarah wrote:
KEVIN53846 wrote:
xhiddenxlustx wrote:
KEVIN53846 wrote:
encouraging them would be like making sure it continues over a period of time...feeding of what they say and responding in such a way as to get more comments of them....which i would say, would lead to it getting a bit deeper than just the odd flirtacious comment..


Hm..

Still don't see anything wrong with it.

Getting deeper? Confused


ok..how about this...you log on here say and see that your partner has been flirting back and forth for 4 or 5 pages with someone else..now obviously they have encouraged them to get to 4 or 5 pages, and by now comments are not ' i like your pic, you have a lovely smile', type of things...

wouldnt you be pissed off at all? you think this is ok?

see..i would be peeved myself, it would seem to me that there is no respect going on, but i want other peoples opinons on this..

again...if both are CLEARLY just having fun,no harm no foul. relationships do require trust


What if it wasn’t on the internet and your boyfriend was chatting up a woman or being chatted up, ..say in a pub somewhere, ..would that not make you angry? Is there really a difference because its online?

there is a difference. if it were online there wouldn't necessarily be intent. we all do it all the time here...doesn't necessarily mean that person is getting ready to cheat


dont think just because its online its more ok to do it...and as for we all do it on here...not true...since meeting claudia, i have never flirted with someone for 4,5 or 6 pages with someone...the odd bit of banter, yes..but out of respect and because its just not 'me' to do this i would never actively encourage it..
but i do understand that others might....it just seems weird to me..

don't know that i would either but i wouldn't look down on someone who did. it's their business not mine

 
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