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Home >> Anything else >> no pic no chat
24.08.2008, 17:56 quote
| JimJam23 wrote: |
| This is probably why i haven't had any messages since i joined a few months back. I have only recently put a photo on my profile. Not a good one but it will do for now till i can get some decent ones. |
Yes, this is a nice pic, although I don't like to see people wearing sunglasses in them as I feel cheated in not being able to see a guys eyes.....as that's what I'm attracted to mostly.
I do answer people who don't have photos up, but I wouldn't give them the same attention until I'm told a good reason why not... and yes, there are some very good reasons... like "I want to cheat on my wife, and if I had my pic up then other people might see it"
Sensitive jobs, I can understand too.
The ones that I get annoyed about are those people who use it as a means to get on your msn/e-mail as that is the only way they say they can show you their pic.....I've regretted my curiosity getting the better of me more than once!
To follow that, I'm disappointed when I see virtually blank profiles and the words "ask me" I like to have some idea about what to ask about a person.
24.08.2008, 18:21 quote
| jeggae wrote: | ||
...and that doesn't raise questions?? I disagree as that is not being honest. If you are going to put up a pick it should be warts n all. |
I agree, I think posting a picture, warts n all tends to be a godsend.
Let's face it one man/woman's meat is anothers poison as they say, if your pic sorts out the wheat from the chaff then it saves alot of time and energy, if peeps are so shallow then fine, would you really want to know them anyway.
I dont want to take the moral high ground here as I've been on both sides of the fence, yes some pics have put me off before a key stroke has been typed so I've been shallow too to the extent of not wanting to cultivate a relationship, but a pic or no won't necessarily stop me from returning a message but the message content possibly would.
24.08.2008, 18:37 quote
| funkychick1 wrote: |
| Maybe not quite the same but would you walk into a bar with your eyes closed and start chatting to someone not knowing what they look like ??????? Well i know i wouldn't ........ it's just part of life that you have to be physically attracted to someone as well there personality. |
Not quite the same, as people in Pubs and clubs dont walk around with just shaded silhouettes, how they looked 15-29 years ago, or just their best photogenic side on show. What you see is what you get.
Realistically you have more chance of being physically attracted to someone in real life then in a photo.
24.08.2008, 18:46 quote
| jeggae wrote: | ||
Not quite the same, as people in Pubs and clubs dont walk around with just shaded silhouettes, how they looked 15-29 years ago, or just their best photogenic side on show. What you see is what you get. Realistically you have more chance of being physically attracted to someone in real life then in a photo. |
Well neither has anyone i have met from here
In fact most have looked better in real life ........ Surely a 15 year old pic would be easy enough to spot, if there profile says they are 40 but look in there twenty's then ask the question. have you had a surgery or is your pic 15 years old .......... if you dont ask you dont get in this world.
24.08.2008, 18:49 quote
Even in real life you can get a shock. I was sitting on a bus one day and this really fit guy sat down and I thought wow he looks great, 10 mins later I had lost any attraction to him, purely by hearing the conversation he was having with the bus driver, his voice etc. just completely turned me off.
At least I hadn't been messaging him for half a year before discovering this.
24.08.2008, 19:00 quote
| jambojam wrote: | ||||
I agree, I think posting a picture, warts n all tends to be a godsend. Let's face it one man/woman's meat is anothers poison as they say, if your pic sorts out the wheat from the chaff then it saves alot of time and energy, if peeps are so shallow then fine, would you really want to know them anyway. I dont want to take the moral high ground here as I've been on both sides of the fence, yes some pics have put me off before a key stroke has been typed so I've been shallow too to the extent of not wanting to cultivate a relationship, but a pic or no won't necessarily stop me from returning a message but the message content possibly would. |
I agree. One of the women I'm kind of seeing at the moment, I didn't really fancy her in her pics at all, but I wasnt disappointed when I met her. I would say her pics are very honest.
She was alright and has a nice personalty and is very caring. But I cant offer her what she wants.
24.08.2008, 19:09 quote
| funkychick1 wrote: | ||||
Well neither has anyone i have met from here In fact most have looked better in real life ........ Surely a 15 year old pic would be easy enough to spot, if there profile says they are 40 but look in there twenty's then ask the question. have you had a surgery or is your pic 15 years old .......... if you dont ask you dont get in this world. |
I've met hundreds of people off the net, and as I have said, most have looked better. There have been quite a few I didn't recognised because their pics wasnt quite as they are. I would say 20% were economic with the truth in some way. But its these 20% that can cause the problems and make it harder for the honest people imo.
24.08.2008, 19:26 quote
As a matter of fact I fell out with probably my best mate on the net after we met. When I met her I didn't recognise her at all, as her picture was nothing like her.
I diplomatically told her I didn't recognise her, and she got the hump and left the site 
she accused me of calling her a fake which I didn't. But we made up after about a day, and we chat and have a laugh on msn almost daily.
I thought I was doing her a favour by telling her 
25.08.2008, 21:14 quote
I really don't see what there is to hide if you're on here to meet someone -- at some point they're going to know what you look like if you actually intend to meet them. A lack of photo demonstrates insincerity. A lack of profile information demonstrates disinterest or arrogance. Either you couldn't be arsed to write it or you expect to get so many responses that you don't have to.
In either case, by leaving the info out, you're actually saying enough about yourself that you've lost my interest.
25.08.2008, 22:23 quote
| jeggae wrote: | ||
...and that doesn't raise questions?? I disagree as that is not being honest. If you are going to put up a pick it should be warts n all. |
That's just it, isn't it. If you don't like your double chin then make the damned effort to lose it instead of fannying around with camera angles and photoshop.
Admittedly I've used photoshop to 'touch up' around my eyes, to remove the tired look, but that's cos I don't look like that 24/7. If there were scars, huge moles, whatever, then I wouldn't really care enough to edit them out.
25.08.2008, 22:30 quote
I bet half the no picture people are drop dead gorgeous, but I still don't reply... Just in case...
26.08.2008, 05:50 quote
Actually, when I first joined here, I sent a message to a no-picture woman and not only did she eventually send me very good looking pics, but we talked online every night for weeks and weeks about all sorts of interesting things. But I could never get her to meet me, even in broad daylight at a public park. Made me wonder if the woman in the photos really existed until I went past her on my bicycle on day (in a hurry, unfortunately) and we both did double-takes and emailed each other that night.
But still couldn't get her to meet me intentionally. Which led me to the second possibility -- I am unmeetable!! 
26.08.2008, 14:25 quote
| brianblaze wrote: |
| I bet half the no picture people are drop dead gorgeous, but I still don't reply... Just in case... |
Yeah, I had a message from a gorgeous guy once and then I noticed his picture vanished, so when I asked him about it, he told me he was just getting too many messages from girls who'd not even read his profile. He wanted to be seen as an interesting person too having made the effort to complete a decent profile, not just a a guy with a fit body.
26.08.2008, 14:57 quote
| brianblaze wrote: |
| I bet half the no picture people are drop dead gorgeous, but I still don't reply... Just in case... |
In case of what? They are EVEN MORE gorgeous than drop dead?
That could turn the universe inside out.......
26.08.2008, 18:51 quote
I've came across quite a few profiles on here today that had. No photo no chat in the description. Nothing about why they are here, etc.
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