In all fairness though.. wouldn't you rather they knew what you looked like before hand, then just being somebody without a face in the forums?

I personally would want people to know who i am before they spoke to me. if they did like my personality, then after i showed them a picture of myself, they could easily scream and run away and not be the person who they thought i would be or who i thought they actually were. Might as well be honest, what cha gonna lose?

Having no pic at all is much worse than an 'ugly' pic. It raises too many questions.

And yes, just like in real life, people are written off on their appearance before they even open their mouths. Thats just human nature. You're not going to cure that one any time soon.

Effort counts for a lot though. Grainy webcam pics that look like a scene from a Jacques Cousteau film are just piss poor. And if someone gets creative with the camera angle to hide their double chin then at least it shows a bit of thought, even if the end result does look like something out of Batman.

Of course it raises questions. But at least it shows theres something going on upstairs. Which counts for a lot in my book. Its a double-edged sword though; on the one hand you have someone who knows how to make the most of what they've got, but theres always the risk you might have someone who has issues with the way they're look. And theres nothing more unattractive than a woman who isn't comfortable with her own body, no matter what shape its in.

Nobody is honest on dating sites. They're either economical with the truth or just embelish a little. Its no different than meeting someone in the flesh. We've all got skeletons and we all paint over the cracks to some degree. If we gave away everything from day one it wouldn't be much fun.

This is probably why i haven't had any messages since i joined a few months back. I have only recently put a photo on my profile. Not a good one but it will do for now till i can get some decent ones.

I feel sorry for you guys that feel insecure, usually its the girls that care too much what they looook like... your picture is great!

I get your point, and i know i have many years to go...when you put it like that though, yes of course everyones got their own personal things they don't want to share, but thats nothing to do with being honest or dishonest.. it's when its highlighted in a conversation would it be classed as either... but hey ho, its each to their own!

Maybe not quite the same but would you walk into a bar with your eyes closed and start chatting to someone not knowing what they look like ??????? Well i know i wouldn't ........ it's just part of life that you have to be physically attracted to someone as well there personality.