The same can be said for 'nice' women who get trampled on or used and abused......You are making massive generalisations.........

And ( I HOPE) it IS all about finding the right partner for you!


Not all men are areholes and not all women are manipulative bitches!


And like you said Chikhai.....the warning signs are there....people just have to look out for them!
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Exactally Twisted......

If I were to go on my past relationships....I wouldn't bother dating ever again ....I'd think all men were abusive violent addict's who wanted to take advantage of my good nature.......

Everyone has baggage...and a history....but that doesn't mean that every person you date is gonna be like your exs!!!
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too bloody right, i know people can get hung up on their ex's but to say that my ex was like that, then your not gonna get anywhere

I don't think nice guys always come last. You can be nice and do well but you still need to know when to draw the line and not take any crap or get used, doesn't mean you have to be nasty.

I think personally whatever your past relationships have been like to start a fresh you wipe the slate clean. I enter any new friendship or relationship with the same gusto as I did when I was a teenager. If it goes wrong thats life. Most
Woman are decent most blokes are decent unfortunatly its human nature to remember the ones that hurt you most. personally if nice guys finish last. I want to be last. shit before shovel etc

[quote="MrGoodCat"]I think personally whatever your past relationships have been like to start a fresh you wipe the slate clean. I enter any new friendship or relationship with the same gusto as I did when I was a teenager. If it goes wrong thats life. quote] i totally agree..
ive dated nice guys and not so nice guys and we've broke up for lots of diff reasons...but it wasnt cos they was too nice..

but each new relationship, i start with a open mind and forget about past relationships

Totally agree twisted. I don't want to be judged on another man so why should I judge another woman. If your thinking the worst. I think the other person will pick up on that and think ''I haven't done anything wrong sod this '' let the past stay were it belongs the past.

No matter how much you think that you start afresh with someone, some baggage is brought into new relationships from your unconsious and affects how you behave in the 'here and now' even though you may not realise it. That's why people end up repeating their patterns of behaviour.

All the women I know who gave up their Mr. Nice guys, had something in common, they all said their partners let them have their way all the time, so they get the feeling that the guy's depersonalising himself and not really expressing himself in the relationship because it would be rare for two people to agree on absolutely everything. I think it's the symbiotic type' nice relationships' that don't work.

You can be nice, without having to lose your personality and integrety.

Nice comment ...put the kettle on then

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True but you can have a conscience effort to try to minimilazie(sp) that.

sub conscious brain can only be programed not controlled. it is not the thinking brain hence no controll over it

Then try to program it your only as negative as you allow yourself to be. do you want a hug?

Self awareness and being true to oneself is the key here, btw kettles on.