I've just learned this evening that my 23 yr old daughter was given 'til today to get out of where she has been living, and she doesn't know what to do. She has been crashing out on people's floors for months, so has no fixed abode, and her belongings are scattered in various friends places. Most of her mates are still living with their parents.
I suggested for her to ring Shelter but nobody answered, and now I've told her to ask the police if there is a place that she can go for an emergency. She's not got any credit left on her phone so is relying on the goodwill of friends, but the situation has become desperate.To make matters worse she suffers from depression and her dad was admitted to hospital this week.
Any ideas anyone?
She won't come to live up with me in Norfolk as there aren't the jobs, and at present she does have a job for 3 days a week. I just don't know what to advise her to do.
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if she goes to the council, maybe if it is possible for you to go with her ??? or a friend?? she needs to talk to the housing people, its worked on points around here and basically homelessness scores pretty high on the urgency list ... they may not get her into a home but they may be able to get her into a hostel or a womens refuge or a b&b. it is a good idea to go to the police as they may know somewhere she can go, also the CAB ... maybe look on their website

i hope she gets sorted soon babe i can only imagine how you both feel x
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She can dos at mine if she likes but its a bit distant. I'd agree CAB is a good place to look. Hope it gets sorted. Scary

Thanks foxy I wished it was that simple, but Redbidge have known about her situation for a few years, but as there is a high immigrant, asylum seekers, and repossessed housing population they really don't care about young single people who have lived all their lives in the borough, they can never score enough points.
Even young couples with newborns don't get the help that is available in other areas, as I have accompanied various young people to the housing department quite a bit in the past. I know it would be easy to pay for a night somewhere but this doesn't help in the long term.
It's only when people are over 25 that they even get help with their low saleries, tbh she cannot afford anywhere on her pay really.
She has been to CAB in the past too, and although they were helpful on some things, housing was not one of them.
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Thanks eda85, maybe I should be asking whether there are enough people to join her for a house share. I've just realised that I come with baggage Sadly, she doesn't cope with stress very well and tends to bury her head in the sand until any problem becomes a crisis. I had no idea her situation was so dire.
I'm going down to London myself tomorrow so I'll be able to give her some moral support at least.
I do find it sad that local relatives have not offered to help as they know that she has this problem
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No chance of getting a council flat for years and years as she's not an immigrant.

Exactly........unless of course she becomes bad enough for psychiatric treatment and I'm really not wanting her to go that way
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Just heard that she's got another friend allowing her to stay the night and she's going to get her most important valuables tonight (that is sentimental things photos and jewellery gifts) and hope for the best that she can go back for other belongings without them being trashed.
At I can rest knowing that she has somewhere to stay tonight.
Btw, for those that don't know, help is for under 21 s and over 25s how sick is that, and did you know that 22-24 don;t even have protection to be paid the minimum wage either.
So difficult for youngsters to become independent these days, most people left home at 18 when I was young and only a few returned to parent's homes.
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Is there a womans shelter nearby, the church maybe, camping sites are cheap, hotel/b&b work with accomodation?
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To be honest I think you should probably try and convince her to come home for a while until she sorts herself out a bit. Might not be an ideal situation for her but it's got to be better than what she's got now, surely?

This is all a bit sobering really. Don't know what I'd do if I were homeless. Learn to play a guitar I guess. I think moose is right: home looks the best option. Even if its out of the way, surely its safer than winging it?

Thanks everyone, she can play happy birthday on the flute and the death march on the piano.
I've tried so hard to get her to stay up here but she loves going to raves at the weekend and even though they do have them up here she thinks they're all second rate.
I'll have to see what I can do about her when I see her.
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is there a ymca or saly army shelter near her? they can provide somewhere to live, i used the ymca myself when i first moved to nottingham with nothing but a ruck sack full of clothes, i stopped there for almost 4 months before i got a job and my own flat

The YMCA may be a possibility. I forgot about them, so may be if she went there, even if they couldn't provide accommodation, they might be able to get some other organisation involved to help her.

I have to say, since last night everything has turned into an even worse situation but the seriousness of it, means I can't share what's happened really.

Anyway I'll let you know what happens eventually but I may not have pc access for a bit.
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