How far is too far? I recently got a reply (very rare) to a message from someone in London saying sorry but it's too far. I consider London to be very close to me, about an hour away, I go there quite often anyway. Maybe she just didnt like my profile much and wanted to be nice. So what do you lot think? Ever done long distance? I went out with a girl from the West Midlands for about 3 month's, which was a 3 hour journey, and although it didnt work it wasnt because of the distance.

Have done long distance before, my ex lives in Canterbury and it was sooo hard as i was always paying for flights over and transport down from London! Wouldn't do long distance again unless there was a chance it was actually going to turn into something where one of even both of us would move!

I changed my profile to emphasise meeting people who LIVE LOCAL to me after having had so many men mucking me around last year, and guess what?... whenever I've made an exception .... it ends up just the same!

Having said that, I do spend quite a few weeks of the year in London so I do enjoy the opportunity to meet some people when I'm there. Don't know what would happen if meeting up turned into a relationship 'cos then the distance thing would set in, time, money and travel would become the issues.

I'll let you know.

This topics a bit near the knuckle for me at the moment because I've just ended a long distance relationship after 14 months.. But here's what I think..

It's not the distance it's self, I use to leave work on a friday night, suitcase in hand, and travel 3 hours to Yorkshire, usualy arriving about midnight, return back to London about 9pm sunday night..

What got us in the end, was the impact on your life, every other weekend I was away from home, the other he was here, but because we hadn't seen each other all week, we wanted to spend the time together, going out, doing things, and for both of us, family and friends (and my housework!!) suffered. We both work full time, (me till 8/9 o'clock) so fitting family and friends or even housework in during the week was hard work!

So for me, no, long distance didn't work in the end (but it was bloody lovely while it did!), but if you have your home life under control, it can work..

An hour down the road isnt to far, i used to go to Cambridge quite alot - reasons i like to keep to myself lol.

That was give or take an hour down the road, i would say pushing 2 hours is getting in the region of too far, unless of course your alternating visits?

But as i travel 90% of the time by bike and i enjoy riding i would quite happily travel anywhere in Britain.

For me at the moment time and money are big issues as I have no money or time to spare right now.

Basically it's all taking the backseat to work. No surprises there then.

Having just read another thread where the guy had gotten involved with a neighbor and when it went tits up he had to move as things got 'difficult'....I am beginning to think, the further away the better!!
I can though understand curraghmore where if you both work full time and have other commitments then driving up and down the countryside using all your valuable virtually non-existant free time on just that one person, the strain can take its toll.
I know that I NEVER want to be in a relationship like that again.
I was with a guy 5 yrs, he in devon and me in cornwall. We alternated visiting each other on weekends but when i wanted to spend the weekend alone with my kids he got jealous and sometimes the week he picked for his holiday did not suit me, all in all it was a disaster waiting to happen...which did, when he met a lass more local to him.
I wouldnt do it again.
Something inbetween several streets away at least and say a couple of hours drive max.

I think if there is a lack of transport and free time to stay over night then it could be difficult.

Well my girlfriend lives in London and I live in Munich.....only takes about 1,5 hours by plane....

I wonder how many people do the meeting half way between where they live and stay in a hotel?

I guess if a couple are miles apart it has to be an issue if they want a FUTURE TOGETHER, someone or both, has to be prepared to move, so then it's jobs, friends, family and everything else into the melting pot.

I think it's so much easier to travel when you're younger, now, I'm not fit enough to be hauling luggage around on public transport as I don't drive.

I do have a lovely friend who travels from Manchester to work in London a few days each month, and I travel to London from Norfolk once in a while so this is one way where we are able to meet up.

Thank's for everyones comments on this, very interesting, you all have quite different opinions.